Wise words....

[nursegirl6572]

I saw this on facebook and wanted to share.  There is a lot of wisdom in these words for those of you who find yourself in an unbalanced relationship, or in a relationship with someone who just takes but never gives.    I think there are some really really important and powerful messages in this.....


"Stop trying to change someone who doesn't want to change.  Stop giving chances to someone who abuses your forgiveness.  Stop walking back to the place where your heart ran from.  Stop trusting their words, and ignoring their actions.  Stop giving your all to a person who gives you nothing.  Stop fighting for a relationship when you're standing in the ring alone.  Stop breaking your own heart."

[specialmom]

Swim don't sink, Tink.


LOVE it!

[TTinKKerBBell]

The simplicity of these words is what does it for me

It took 15 years of a bad Marriage, a Very Very bad Marriage for me to 'exercise' the "stops" in that powerful little paragraph of Yours, NurseGirl - and it was another simple message that gave me the way out of that Marriage 37 years ago:

Paul Simon's 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover:
Step out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
Get on the bus, Gus
Just drop of the key, Lee

I thought OMGolly - it can be simple if I make it simple....SO I added

Swim don't Sink, Tink

and I left shortly after

You are absolutely right, we always have more CHOICE than we are able to see when we are in pain.

[nursegirl6572]

I really like "stop breaking your own heart."  I think when we are caught up in things, it is hard to see that we contributed to the creation of the situation and have more choices than we see upon first glance.  


Absolutely!!

[TTinKKerBBell]

NurseGirl

Love This!!  

[specialmom]

Thank you for posting this, nursegirl and chima.  Yes, definitely you two bring much wisdom to the forum and I know it is much appreciated.

I like both postings and both have a powerful message, don't they?

  I really like "stop breaking your own heart."  I think when we are caught up in things, it is hard to see that we contributed to the creation of the situation and have more choices than we see upon first glance.  

[Londres70]

Both (Chima's and NG's) are full of wisdom.

[nursegirl6572]

LOVE that, especially the very last line....sooooo very true!

[Chima7]

That's a good one. I found an awesome one on Twitter:

"The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it's not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person--without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other."

-Osho