Worried about my marriage

[kayly]

My husband no longer has that feeling for me anymore. I think it all happened when i lost my job. Our sex life isn't the same and there is no passion. We argue alot over this problem. He gets off work and just stays in another room. he dosen't show me that he cares anymore. He's also a porn watcher. He stay up until 5 in the morning watching it. Is it me did he loose interest. People say that things change in your marriage but I didn't think it would be this. I strongly believe that he's not cheating me but why the change. Even after he watches his porn he doesn't even want to have sex with me. Can someone please help me i don't think our marrige is going to last.

[PlateletGal]

Ignore that comment from you know who (and you know what). There are so many beautiful women, including models, who have husbands/boyfriends who are obsessed with porn.

[laura1977]

let me say something about porn.  my sister was married to someone who never watched it, and they had a good sex life....then he started to view it, and he didn't go to his wife with his needs anymore.  The bad thing about porn is that normal women cannot keep up with what these guys are viewing.  There has been something done on a study about guys and that when they are watching tv with their wives, that if they see a pretty girl on tv..that they aren't as attracted to their wives for a few minutes.  Either throw your tv out the door or your husband.  Kidding.

[anxiousmomtobe?]

You cannot blame yourself for losing your job.  This may be a convenient excuse for your husband to dump on you, but I think the problems are much deeper.

Porn is a dangerour addiction and he needs counselling.  It is not normal to watch it for hours a day.

You both need counselling.

[PlateletGal]

I'll be honest with you. I don't believe it is a good sign at all when anyones husband stays up all night viewing porn.

If you want to try to save this marriage, I would consider putting your foot down with your husband and tell him that you want him to (((( list your demands --- I would suggest counseling )))).