attracted to another man should i leave my husband?

[Laurka]

HI!!! so glad i found this forum.. Hope to get some fresh opinion, please help! I have been married for over 3 years, no kids. Everything started from such a strong love... he proposed after three dates... we were married in 6 months. I am 25 years old now, and my husband is 42 years old... once upon a time, we used to have such a passionate and mind-altering intimate relationship.... however it's been so long ago... Now, we have sex once in three months. And i found myself in the situation when I am madly attracted to another man... with my whole heart and sexually...There is nothing i can do without thinking of him...think he is attracted to me as well (but he does not know i am married) and he is 24 years old we have more in common then i do with my husband. I now came to the conclusion that my sexual life with my husband is not going to improve in the future, and if i stay i will be stuck like this for the rest of my life... but i have so much respect for him

[hounor]

who ever you are your correct based upon the evidence thats compailing to see what about truth honour loyalty intigerty these are the top greatest attributes not respest because marriage is of god not philosphy what ever makes you feel good this is a atheistic veiw on life your own opinion not absolute truth or fact again not what i think can a man or a woman place their exposed face before a fire then placing their whole face and head in the fire without being brunt? no comman sence the same about commiting adultrey its wrong another man in the frame work this woman might as well and place her mouth on a live electric ell are place her lips on a live power line and kiss it see how wrong it is absolutely wrong commen sence think about it is there enough water in the universe to put out the suns power ?no

[Sweetcrissy]

  Im in the same situation kinda, ive been married for 2 almost 3 years now and at first it was great the connection and the sex was perfect he proposed while we were intimate and because my dad was dying i told him yes but because my dad was dying i wanted him to walk me down the eile it was perfect now 2 years later i love him but not like i used to since we have been married hes gotton more how do i put it. Um boring, controlling, possesive, and well he treats me like a child i try and make my own choices and he gets mad and if i want to go out he constantly gets on me about being selfish because i want some time to myself i just dont get it im 24 and hes 34  like for example i went for a walk just to sit by the lake to think i was gone maybe an hour ya i made a phone call to a friend but thats it i got back home and he automatically jumps to who did u call what was it a bootie call and ex... I never thought about cheating not once… now i have a different friend that i litterally dream about every night and weve talked and he likes me but hes scared of my husband lol so he wont talk to me anymore and it bugs me i dont know what to do.

[justsomeadvice]

As others have said, the grass is always greener on the other side.

I am not puritanical and not particulatly religious or anything about marriage, but it just takes so much work and effort and love to get one started that you should give it your best shot and not be selfish.

I find that there tends to be dramatically different advice given by people depending upon whether or not they have actually been able to make a relationship last for a while or not.

Those who have not don't really value relationships and say go and do what you want.

Those who have say relationships take a great deal of effort and sometimes you have really to try to keep them going and they take work.

Obviously, if the other person in the relationship is abusive or similar you need to put a stop to it.  But if they are honestly trying their best but sometimes things are awkward or the spark isn't there, do you honestly believe it is going to get any better in a different relationship?

[monique222]

im in a relation ship with a girl but cant stop cheatin on her wit dis guy i think im fallin for him for all da wrong reasons he say he love me but i dont think he will ever charish me like she will she will die 4 me a he nos about her but she dosnt no about him she'll be devistated i dont no wat 2 do soo confused i love dem both for diffrent reasons i rarely express myself now im stuck wit them both and i no wats in da dark will *** 2 lite one day an i dont wanna hurt any body cuz i no carma isnt a joke wat should i do im scared~tears~

[Shanaroma]

I think if you can picture yourself more with a future with the other guy than you can with your husband and if your gut tells you to and if you think you would be happier with this other guy then go for it!

[kitty95619]

I am 38 and so is my husband, we have been married for over 8 yrs and have been together for over 13yrs, no children. I went to my class reunion this past weekend and everybody complimented on how great i looked. One of the guys i use to have a crush on was hitting on me the entire weekend, we even slept together in the same bed, but just cuddled nothing else. Ever since i have gone back home all i can think about is him, he is everything i want in my life right now that i dont get from my husband. The marriage has been in a downward spiral for a couple of years now but i have never left because of financial security. I have been thinking more about leaving him so i could start over and hopefully be happy again or am i just wanting to rehash this weekend. This is my second marriage and staring over at 38 just frightens me.