confused relationship

[whiteboy123]

Hi everyone i have been with my girlfriend for about 2 plus years now and for the most part it has gone okay. we have had money problems and as a result i complained a lot. in 2 years we have had sex 1 time and later i found out that she says she has sis on her ovary that prevents her from doing so. i asked why and she is scared that she may hurt something. so we have tried to work through it. recently i have gotten the urge that she is cheating but i can't really prove it. i recently have tried to contact her  then later seen her with a dude later telling me that it was her cousin. My mind is telling me that it isn't the truth. Later we argue and she say she needs a break that she is fustrated and wants a break. we have talked here and there but something isn't right cause i feel that there is a change of pattern. Is this all in my mind or Im i  correct about what i am thinking

[Nighthawk61]

Money problems is a source of conflict for many couples, and ends a lot of relationships, but the fact that you don't have a sex life, and you've said nothing about a doctors appointment for the cyst suggests there may have been sexual incompatibility? When these things come up in  a relationship it takes the commitment from both parties to work through it and your girlfriend is not making that commitment to you it seems, for whatever reason. But you have to look logically at this and realize that maybe you dropped the ball, by not questioning the cyst, and discussing a solution earlier. Or perhaps, your part in making a plan to manage your finances? Live and learn, my friend. Look for red flags and chase down a logical way to manage your problems early in a relationship. If you can, always discuss with a psychologist ways of managing your relationships in a healthy way, and bring logic into your next relationship, but don't allow this to have you living in fear. Take the bull by the horns, and manage your life.

Work out your own expectations in the beginning of a relationship, so that you don't waste your precious time on a train going nowhere, in the future. I'm so sorry that you're hurting right now, but it's sometimes a broken road that gets you to your forever match. It did for me. Have faith, and make sure that you're bringing the best you into future relationships, and i look forward to hearing that you got through this and are in a mutually satisfying relationship in the future. If you need to talk further, just reach out and make friends here on medhelp by sending a message. If you need to talk, I'm just a click away. Liz

[Life360_Dave]

Hi White boy, i would go with your gut feelings on this. You seem very perceptive.
Money can put a tremendose strain on relationships and women tend to lean on the man for creating a successful financial future. You may have let her down when it comes to this. Its not really your fault,  its a combination of how we were raised and our ambition.

[RockRose]

After dating her for two years it seems like you would have met any local cousins she might have.

I don't know why she won't have sex ever,  but it seems like if she had a cyst she would have gotten that taken care of already.  

She's moving on - maybe it's time to let her go.