he ignores me

[shadwo]

This is my first time posting in this form. Im stressed out and no where to turn for advice. I am depressed and so alone even tho im married. I have had alot of health problems and dealing with constant headaches .. I have never turned him down for sex much except when im in unbearable pain..My husband slowly has treated me more as a room mate ..I have gained weight slowly over the past 3 years. My husband dont even look at me or tell me i look nice anymore. I can walk in the room with my breast showing and he dont say a word ,, he wont turn his eyes off the tv. He dont want to go out except to go to the store. We just sit on the love seat not talking and when we do its about his job and how his back hurts.. I think he dont have back trouble because he walks and bends over and side to side.. I have never told him i dont believe his back hurts.. I have told him how i feel and he promises to change .. He changes for a day or to and same old ****..He never wants sex and when i love on him he starts saying his belly hurts . I asked him why he dont want sex and he told me omg this hurts so bad ,,,he said its hard to have sex when he cant get excited ! He said oh its not me its cause he cant get hard.. he is 40 how can that be? I told him im lonely and not happy and feel like a room mate and he changes 1 or 2 days how can he get up for thos days? i tell him and even told him i wanted a divorce and i dont have a say over our kids its his way and thats it..Should i leave im tired of the 1/2 day game.. The only time we realy talk is by txt. Im so confused and need advice .  

[SincerelyYoursT]

Nearly all relationship problems stem from when 1 or both people neglect their (instinctual) role. Men treat women in a way that makes them feel desired, & sexy. Women treat men in a way that always protects and builds their confidence… with counseling you may be able to get to the root of the problem.
However, it is not uncommon that people lose touch and grow apart. When the attraction is gone, it is hard to get it back…

All women should feel desired…

Good luck

[Londres70]

Totally agree with RockRose.  

[RockRose]

shadwo,  I think you all need family counseling.  I read through your profile,  and see that you are concerned your husband is addicted to pain medication and is faking back pain to get the meds,  your daughter has an eating disorder that you're trying to help her with,  and you're considering leaving the marriage because you two have drifted apart.

Is it possible for you to all get family therapy?  It sounds like everyone is struggling in your home with emotional detachment -

Best wishes.

[shadwo]

I forgot to mention he buys my love and thinks that make me happy and stay.