hes working on valentines day, should i be mad?

[brokenxheart]

My boyfriend told me yesterday that hes working on valentines day! and he promises me he will make it up another day. To him valentines day means nothing he says theres no certain day only to show affectiion he says that could happpen anyday. I know its true but i was a little upset that he has to work on valentines day. Should i be mad or not worry about it?

[penswriter]

mad he's working????

heck if my dh was mad at me every time i worked on a holiday he'd never speak to me. i worked EVERY holiday (yes i do mean every single holiday) when i did work. now that i'm a stay at home mom...i get nights off.

but seriously when i was a bartender i had to work every holiday (great for money but sucked). dh didn't like it but he was never mad at me. when he was in the corps he had no choice but to work unless he had leave. it sucked but i was never mad at him. don't be mad...unless he requested to work of course.

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I agree w/ penswriter.  My DH works whenever there is work.  This year, he worked on Christmas Eve, New Year's Eve, our Anniversary and last year, he worked on Thanksgiving.  He has a regular job (that normally does not work on holidays) but he is also a contractor on the side.  So when a client wants him to come look at a job, it is NEVER a good time, but he has to get the money when the money is there to be gotten.  Heck, I had a baby on 9-10-09.  She is 5 months today!!  Anyway, that morning, he dropped me off at the hospital but had to go back to the house to get his laptop....Yep, you guess it....For work!  I didn't like that too much but I knew he had to finish what he was doing because it was for his regular job for his boss and he was getting ready to take a week off to help me with the baby and our other kids.  So he had no choice.

So I wouldn't be mad.  He may not have had a choice and Valentine's Day is a whole 24 hours so hopefully, even though he has to work, he can squeeze in a little bit of time for you.

[specialmom]

Just giving my two cents like the others . . . this will be the first Valentine's Day that my husband will be in town in about 3 years.  He travels for work and last year he was out of the country.  He's missed a few of my birthdays as well.  I don't get mad personally.  I know in my heart that he would rather be with me but has to do what he has to do for his job.  We celebrate another time and it is sweeter because we choose to do it rather than having a day in which we are suppose to.  

. . .And he may be earning extra money for a little present for you!!  So, try to remember he probably would rather not work but feels like he has to.  good luck

[Ashelen]

Agreeing with the others...my husband worked on Christmas Eve and made it home in time for supper, and I had absolutely no anger.

We usually celebrate minor holidays a few days off of the norm anyway, because you can hit the sales and celebrate with twice the gifts a few days after the fact....if he could buy you a necklace before Valentine's Day, he can buy you the whole set the day after because of all the sales...so look at it that way!

[imanaddict]

My DH works every holiday too, and he works nights so we rarely get to spend any holidays together. I can't be upset about it, that's just the way it is. It does s u c k though, but mad or upset, no. I'm grateful we both have a job in this rough economic time and sometimes we have to do what we have to do to survive. He said he'd make it up to you, which is a nice gesture. And when he does, go all out and enjoy it.

[Tivie]

My DH is working on Valentin day this year. Valentin day is also my birthday. I'm not mad at him for that, Why would I be mad it is his work, we still have bills to pay so valentin day or not we have to pay them. He show me everyday that he love me, we don't need a special day for that.

[brokenxheart]

you're all right. I was more upset because he told me for the past 2months that valentines he will take off and we will spend the day toghter( he works everyday alll day) so i don't see him much. So i was more upset he promised me he will take off and then didn't but i'm souppose to work but i gave my hours to my friend because i thought he was taking off and i told him that im souppose to work on valentines day i asked him if i should give away my hours and he said do what you want so i gave my friend hours thinking he was taking off. I think he should of been honest with me from the beginning not wait until the last minute when i gave my friend my hours already.

[jo929]

you ought to be ashamrd of yourself, thinking only of your self many people are walking the streets looking for a job be thankful he has one i bet he is , also many people are going hungry anyone that has a job should take care of it think of the hospital workers and many others

[Ashelen]

No I see now why she was upset...it's okay to feel a little put-out, but I wouldn't be mad. you're right he should've been honest but "shoulda, coulda, woulda but he didn't" so just move on and enjoy the day you DO spend with him :). Do you think you can trade back for your hours?

[jo929]

sorry i was so harsh yes it is ok to be dissapointed i was having what some call a bad hair day sorry again the other ladies are right as usual  my apoligies  jo

[Judy246]

Welcome to my world (lol)...my fiance took me out to breakfast this morning for Valentine, because his elderly uncle, who doesn't know one day from another right now, invited him and his other uncles (the old timers breakfast (lol)) and forgot that Sunday is Valentine. My fiance doens't have the heart to tell him no, because the man just recovered from a stroke, is frail, yet enjoys life. It bothered me that my fiance didn't tell him anything, BUT we have been together soooo long, that it's no big deal anymore. So, my advice is forgive him that he is not warm and fuzzy, but make sure he treats you to a nice dinner. Right now, my fiance is sleeping on the couch with the Chicago Black Hawks game on and here I am on the computer....happy early Valentine to me and life goes on..... Judy