hi people

[angelairene]

where do i start lol:i met a guy on thiz web site n we were gettin on so great:n 3 monthz later he was wanting 2 meet me n i refused due 2 me avin anxiety n depression due 2 me avin a baby 4mnth ago:so pretty complicated reason pluz i woz also in a 12 yr relationship that went belly up when i woz 4mnth preg so didnt go dwn 2 well emotionlly:then he met sum1 else slept wiv them he sounded upset when i spoke wiv him but now hez crackin on me again wot shell i do:in my eyez i get on wiv him but i cant trust him:

[janellin]

Stick with your baby and try to get yourself back up on track. Sort out your life then you can let someone in.

[babycree]

Hello!  You will be ok!  Just put god first an try to stay focus on you an your baby,  good things will come to you.  Online chatting are dateing seems scary with me " you have to be. Careful what you do an stay aware of your surrounding areas.

[specialmom]

Yes, I agree that you should find some ways to have contact with other people that are safer than throwing your heart into a romantic relationship before it has even gotten off the ground.  There is something called MOPS which is Mothers Of Preschoolers.  It is run through churches and does have a Christian base but really is just a meeting ground for moms.  They meet at least once a month for a formal meeting and then branch out to play dates and play groups.  I met one of my best friends in MOPS and know many who say the same thing.  What about family as well?  

Wishing you lots of luck.  There will be a time to date but I would wait until you are really clear about what you want and holding people to high standards.  peace

[shell921]

can you join a mother's group or go to the gym? you can make friends of other new moms that way and perhaps not be so lonely. you do need to be with people but not dating right now.

[angelairene]

yea i kno.i just get lonely sumtimez i guess.itz not easy lookin after a baby on ya own.i do not want i man 2 take over or liv wiv nthin like tht?just 1 i can 2 enjoy when i feel up 4 it.so i cud get a break.itz very hard adjust 2 motherhood even mre so when it woznt pland like.but all n all itz not goin appen so i shell do that n just make it the 2 of uz.n thanku again

[shell921]

I agree with specialmom....your baby needs you and that should be your number ONE priority. the baby and taking care of yourself so you can be the best mother possible for your baby. you do not need to be dating for quite awhile now. your happiness is not going to come from some guy you met online. your happiness is going to come from being a good mom and taking good care of your baby. there is nothing more important than that right now.
please take specialmom's advice-- You are not in the right frame of mind right now to make good choices about men.  

[angelairene]

thanku hun?i av thought it thou quite alot:n i cant trust him ive told him thiz also we do get on so great but not sure weather i shud try take it futer than freindz but im expectin him doin it on me:he doez ask me if i cud c meself being wiv him when im half sorted like lool:but i do feel sumit 4 him not sure quite wot thou i will not tell him cuz he mite pray on it c?sumdayz im appy wiv freind sumdayz more but then i go bk on it.i av thought is it me ex im seekin n i c him in him quite alot so thiz mite b y i like him like i do:im also soo tired wiv baby i av no energy 2 do anything wiv no1?so cant blame him really as we all av needz lool:i do think he may b wastin him time anywayz but i like his company on the fone when im board ive told him thiz awell?but i do think if i dnt bother i cud b losin out on appinezz like.

[specialmom]

Hm.  Well, welcome to med help.  My best advice?  Hang out with your baby for now.  You don't need the drama or complications of a guy right now after a big break up and a new baby.  Especially some guy you met on the internet and haven't really dated and he's sleeping with whomever he meets, etc.  He didn't 'cheat' on you as you weren't a couple but he is of low character and sounds like he is just out to get some.  

After a big break up, it is good to hang tight and get fully over that.  If you have depression and anxiety and a new baby, it is best to just focus on yourself right now.  You might not be in the right frame of mind right now to make good choices about men.  

So let him crack (??) on someone else. good luck