Aa
im confused
Ive been crying alot lately n i really dont wanna start stressing cause im pregnant but im in love with ma boyfriend of 3 n a half yrs i really love him n ive been putting my all into mqking this relationship work im 20 n hes 32 n its a big age difference so u would think he has some experience on relationships but yet it seem like i know more its like this for 3 of tha 3 n a half yrs we been together every thing towards me have been negative ive been everything in tha book to this man everything u name n im hurt in his eyes im nothing but a b**** h** im dirty slow no good evrything u name it im it he never told me how attractive i am to him he never tells me he loves me he never touch me never kiss me nothing n it gets to tha point where i wanna cry because im scared to talk to him because he thinks i have low self esteem...he find ma wallet n i wanted to give him a kiss and a hug n he told me i was weird all i wanna do is be loved n its hard for him to accept i stay at home wit ma child all day everyday n sometimes its stressful n i just want him to see that hes not tha only one that has a job but he comes in from work n i b so happy to see him n its like he cone n mad n he sit right in fromt of tha tv n after that its bed time this is a everyday thing n i try to have fun n make him smile n things like that but hes serious about everything he act as if he has no interest in me n it really hurts so most of tha time i jus keep to maself its like he never wanna talk about n im starting to become lonely i dont have ne friends hes my only best friend n its tha only thing we have left everything thing is gone literally i jus wanna b happy i thought a relationship was spose to b exciting n i research info about how relationships r spose to be n they said touching is a big part of a relationship but he hasnt touched me since three yrs barely do nething wit me but fall to sleep on me leavn me up wit tha bby all night its out of control n im really scared to lose him i been wit him since 17 this tha only real relationship ive ever had n iknow if if i leave him nobodys gon want me please somebody help me..
You say you love him but don't say even one thing that he does that is attractive or lovable. It sounds like he has been angry and judgmental and unloving for a long time. Why does that light your fire? Or are you just hanging on because of fear of the unknown? I'd definitely get ready and get out, and then do some heavy-duty counseling to find out what on earth possessed you to 'love' someone who clearly does not love you or make any effort to be attractive or supportive.
It really his but he doesnt see it as one....we have one baby together but hes 9 mths and were expect our second in june.....yea its pretty hard tha whole situation is something that can b worked out but not just by one person n thats what happening im tha only one its like im in this alone n it hurts but i guess he doesnt care....i do have job training its just that theres no jobs here i really wanna leave but its going to hurt me to know that i wont be wit him .....n u are right he is mad and withdrawing n thats how hes going to be in tha future i mean i try hard as possible but its like it never fails for me....i dont think i can live without him seriously i just wont him to understand how i feel ...im just lost im tryn so hard to stay positive but i dont i will succeed...i dont go to church but that would be a great idea thanks for the advice really appreciate it !!!!
Sounds like an awful situation. If you're home all the time with a child, does this mean you had an earlier child with him who is now over three? That would make things even harder, since really, the way things are, you should be making plans to get some marketable job training and leave. I'm sorry you're pregnant, because he is showing by his actions now just what kind of partner he will also be in the future; a mad, withdrawing one. You should be making plans. Why not talk to your pastor?
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