Well, hon...........are you living in his home? Are you paying any household expenses?
If this isn't your home and you aren't contributing to the household expenses then you can't really tell someone what to do in their home. Don't get me wrong, you can talk with your son or tell him your concerns, however, if this is his home he really has the last say about the decor, the decorations, who will be decorating, etc.
I would hope someone would NEVER put a gf over their own mother, however, it happens. Sometimes parents have to remember their children are grown and have their own life to live and it isn't necessary to include "mother" in everything they do, e.g. you getting ditched at the store especially if they didn't ask you to come. Maybe you son thinks you are overly involved in his life and is trying to prove a point?
Can the three of you sit down and agree on a household schedule, agree on who is to decorate what, etc.?
Have you talked to your son at all about this? I wouldn't directly talk to the gf alone; it's best you all THREE discuss these things together.
I meant..........why are you insecure? Are you afraid this new gf will take over the house permanently?
I think you're wrong here, maggie.
At first, I was aghast at the absolute gall of this girlfriend coming into your home taking over your kitchen and decorating your home. Good God.
But it's your son's home, and this is his girlfriend who is there for a visit.
I think the kitchen is hers, and if he wants to enlist her help in house decorating, that's her place.
I think you're in the wrong here for wanting the role of wife and mother of the children.
It muddies the water somewhat that she is also not the wife and mother of the children. But she's occupying that position, however temporarily.
Do you see a time in the future where you will be on your own again? That might be best, and the sooner the better.
Is this living arrangement temporary?
Hi there. It's been a few days since you post. Can you give us an update?