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international love
I met a guy a couple months back on a daing site and really hit it off the only problem we had was that we lived in 2 different cities. He wasn't my cup of tea at 1st but sooner or later I grew to like him,he was sweet and really caring and that made me like him even so much so we made plans to go visit his family in Morocco and then get married! As time went by we had to £meet face to face coz for the months we been chatting and falling for each oda over skype:)so I was abit adamant about going to meet him but he eventually convinced me so I take a bus and travel 630miles for 10 hours scared to meet the love of my life,as I get there and b4 he picks me up I had got £my period and my moods were just not stable I was grumpy and annoyed tried my best to b nice but I was so nervous so much so that he couldn't take it anymore took me back to the station to book my ticket back home,I was torn apart really wanted things to be perfect but he just didn't understand why I was so different all of a sudden! Anyway I get bk home and try to make things ryt but he wud just tell me he can't be with me his really disappointed in me,he says I just love to fight,I really like him:( so now his blocked me from all apps I could connect to so I could have contact with him its been 2 wks its killing me that his hasn't made any contact with me!WHAT DO I DO???do I call him?
Thanks for all your advice ladies:)I did listen to you guys well kinda listened I messaged him 1ce he was kind enough to reply but I just didn't want to carry on feeling this way so I told myself that was last tym I'll ever do that,so a week back I was sitting with a couple of mates and we logged on 1 of their profiles and invited a girl by mistake and only to find out that that's the guys gf for a year now!now I've finally got closure:)
No, you haven't messed it up at all; you are correct with what I have stated; kudos. :)
Very valuable advice given!
Be on you're own for awhile.. focus on YOU! You don't need a man right now to make you happy.. and just my opinion, it is very dangerous to meet up with someone you met online... you never really know a person until you've spent a LOT of time with them.. ok, I'm done sounding like you're mother :) and don't think anyone here is judging you.. I've seen a lot of people get huffy and puffy because responses to their posts were not what they wanted to hear.. like I've heard Londres say (more than once) "I would be doing you a disservice if I told you what you wanted to hear" I probably messed that quote up royally.. and feel free to correct me, Londres :)
No one here is judging you or putting you down.. we just want you to end up in a healthy relationship.. but for now, focus on YOU! Happiness is a choice.. and to answer your question, no don't call.. he has made it clear where you two stand. Let it go. Move on! Hope you take our advice for what it is. Do let us know how you're doing!
Take care,
Krystal
Be on you're own for awhile.. focus on YOU! You don't need a man right now to make you happy.. and just my opinion, it is very dangerous to meet up with someone you met online... you never really know a person until you've spent a LOT of time with them.. ok, I'm done sounding like you're mother :) and don't think anyone here is judging you.. I've seen a lot of people get huffy and puffy because responses to their posts were not what they wanted to hear.. like I've heard Londres say (more than once) "I would be doing you a disservice if I told you what you wanted to hear" I probably messed that quote up royally.. and feel free to correct me, Londres :)
No one here is judging you or putting you down.. we just want you to end up in a healthy relationship.. but for now, focus on YOU! Happiness is a choice.. and to answer your question, no don't call.. he has made it clear where you two stand. Let it go. Move on! Hope you take our advice for what it is. Do let us know how you're doing!
Take care,
Krystal
I will agree with the above posters, especially Tink's responses.
Several recurring themes in your posts: drama, falling in love quickly, man hopping and choosing men that are NOT available to your related to his situation or distance; for example: the man from Morocco and the married man who was separated from his wife.
I would recommend you refrain from any relationship with another man UNTIL you sort out underlying issues with yourself. I mean, if you have to ask whether you should pursue an man who has pretty much blocked you from any contact with him I would have to say you have some serious issues that need to be addressed.
Several recurring themes in your posts: drama, falling in love quickly, man hopping and choosing men that are NOT available to your related to his situation or distance; for example: the man from Morocco and the married man who was separated from his wife.
I would recommend you refrain from any relationship with another man UNTIL you sort out underlying issues with yourself. I mean, if you have to ask whether you should pursue an man who has pretty much blocked you from any contact with him I would have to say you have some serious issues that need to be addressed.
COMMUNITY LEADER
I think that sometimes a 'cooling' off period from dating is a better approach rather than jumping right in with someone new. Could you perhaps be very desperate to be in a relationship?? that is dangerous because then you may find yourself making poor choices. I'd take a period of time now in which you don't date anyone. Reflect on what has happened in past relationships and come up with a new plan. good luck
Yes ashelen,I figured that so called relationship was going nowhere slowly so I gave this guy a chance.
Curious - were you already talking to this guy when all that drama was occurring with the other guy?
COMMUNITY LEADER
This is one of the pitfalls of meeting on line and thinking it is a real relationship before meeting and spending REAL time together. A lot is missed on line that one sees day to day. And I agree, he saw you at a moody moment. We all have those. It wasn't a fluke that you did---- everyone does from time to time. And he doesn't feel you are a match. you can't change who you are.
I'd say to try to meet someone locally and spend real time with them. This is the best way to fall in love as it is based on substance and togetherness.
By the way, one of the reasons why I married my husband was because we'd spent enough time together that he saw all of my different sides, the good, the bad, and the ugly and still thought I was terrific. THAT was someone I could grow old with!! He accepted me for who I was, flaws and all. It's a rotten life to feel like you can't have a bad day with your partner.
and unfortunately, you two were't even partners yet but two internet friends meeting for the first time.
good luck dear. Sorry it hurts. Please don't contact him though. If he blocked you, contacting him would be inappropriate. Peace in your heart and hope you feel better soon.
I'd say to try to meet someone locally and spend real time with them. This is the best way to fall in love as it is based on substance and togetherness.
By the way, one of the reasons why I married my husband was because we'd spent enough time together that he saw all of my different sides, the good, the bad, and the ugly and still thought I was terrific. THAT was someone I could grow old with!! He accepted me for who I was, flaws and all. It's a rotten life to feel like you can't have a bad day with your partner.
and unfortunately, you two were't even partners yet but two internet friends meeting for the first time.
good luck dear. Sorry it hurts. Please don't contact him though. If he blocked you, contacting him would be inappropriate. Peace in your heart and hope you feel better soon.
caughtup, I completely agree with the others. If you said you had taken a motion sickness medication you'd never taken before and had a very odd reaction, or something similar, I'd say I hope he gives you another chance.
What he saw, was you. You were acting like you.
I think you need to examine why you were "so different" with him in person, and my guess is because you don't want a personal relationship, you want a long distance one.
What he saw, was you. You were acting like you.
I think you need to examine why you were "so different" with him in person, and my guess is because you don't want a personal relationship, you want a long distance one.
P.S.
You were caught up in another dramatic relationship only in January. Maybe You should look within to figure why You attract to relationships such as these.
You were caught up in another dramatic relationship only in January. Maybe You should look within to figure why You attract to relationships such as these.
No... Let him be. Don't contact him, just move on. It didn't work out... You aren't compatible. He's made it pretty clear that he's put you in the past...so, move on. At this point trying to contact him is inappropriate and creepy. Consider this a learning experience and start dating locally.
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