Is my wife addicted to masterbation

[Frimez]

My wife started masterbating while I'm a sleep about 6 months ago either using a vibrator or her hand
It can last all night nearly every night
But completely denies it's happening
Even to the point she's says she seeking medical advise for the vibrations I'm feeling from her.
Mainly blaming it on the coil she has fitted. As she has read it can make u give of a slight vibration like if u had you phone in your bag and you felt it vibrate.
Except the vibrations are strong different speeds and some times when she gets the wrong pattern you can her the click of the remote as she scrolls through to get the pattern she likes.
My main concern is tgat she is showing signs the same as my dad does who is a alcaholic.
Completely denies it goes off on a very dramatic deniel some times a little violent like slapping me a bit nothing bad. But even when basically cought red handed total denies it's happening to the point it's my fault and angry with me for even mentioning it.

I'm at the point I don't know what to do or suggest to her she has seen a doctor a few times about this but does not say she's masterbating just that she is vibrating and doesn't know why and of course the doctors are confused.
I'm worried she will go ahead and have a procedure that isn't needed just to keep up this lie.

[Sami1978]

She is in complete dinaial and gets super mad

[vicki595]

This is actually a real thing that women (and men) suffer with.

Go to the Women's Health Forum here on MH and do a search for "vibrations in vagina".  You'll be amazed! ;)

[mikehan]

This mainly occurs to me as a bad sexual relationship. There would be something missing in yours and you and your wife should try and return the magic to your sex. I cannot assure that will solve the problem altogether but it's definitely a start. Cheers!

[RockRose]

This is one of the more baffling posts I've read on this forum.  Either 1.  she is or 2.  she isn't masturbating.  It just doesn't seem like it would be that hard to come to a very very clear answer - one that can't be denied.  I agree with SM,  next time you hear or feel the vibrator,  sit up and LOOK.  Then,  if you can't agree between you whether she is using a vibrator or not,  one of you is psychotic.

But,  you sure do learn things on this board.  I learned that there are remote controlled vibrators (googled it) and that Mirena and other IUDs often cause women to feel a cell phone type vibration in their uterus that lasts 5-10 seconds and can be so annoying they have the IUD removed.  

[AnnieBrooke]

Interesting to hear there is a vibrator that has a remote.  Obviously even if she has one, it would not affect the coil.  Possibly (if this story is correct as written) she is trying to ease the vibes she feels from the coil?  But I sure can't imagine anyone masturbating all night in any case, no matter how many irritating vibes they feel from their coil..

As the others have commented, please simply wake up, sit up, turn on the light, and ask her what she is doing.  It should not be something where you lie in the dark inventing stories of what she might be doing when it is so easy to check to see what she actually is doing.

[AnnieBrooke]

I also say what procedure do you think she is going to have done that might be harmful?  Removing a coil is a very simple process.

You heard the "click of the remote as she scrolls through to get the pattern she likes" ?  What kind of vibrator do you think she has that has a remote?  It sounds more like she is watching TV, she is certainly not in possession of some kind of remote control that turns on the coil in her uterus.  There is no such product.

An IUD is inserted past the vagina and all its nerves, and rests in the uterus.  Masturbation centers on the lower vagina and clitoris.  This makes all this talk about the coil giving her (sexual, you think) vibrations kind of odd.  But let's assume she is having some kind of nerve reaction that travels down to her clitoral area, unlikely as it actually sounds.  If so, she should certainly get the coil removed if it is bothering her.

It almost (and I'm only guessing here) sounds like the coil being there bothers you for whatever reason, and she is perhaps masturbating, and you think she is masturbating all night and have attributed it to the coil.  There might be other reasons for the noises you have heard; there might be other things she is doing at night.

[specialmom]

Hi.  I've never read a question like this with all my time at med help!  So, you think you hear a vibrator switching speeds?  At that moment, turn on the light and look.  She can't ditch the vibrator that fast.  And if she doesn't have one and is mad at you, play it off.  Really, masturbation is normal but it would NOT be normal to masturbate all night.  Every night.  My guess is that you are mistaken about what is happening.  

If she doesn't like the coil because it is vibrating even a little bit, removing it is best.  That's not a needless procedure.  

But her slapping you in anger because you keep accusing her is also a bad sign for your relationship.  Volatility like that is not okay.  I get that most likely she is not masturbating and your accusations would get old and annoying but hitting you is not okay.  

Lots of problems here.  Been together long?