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is he imberesd of me
So me and my bf have been together for a while and I'm pregnant by him and but he doesn't like taking me around his friends he makes excuses and also some family members do you think he is unbearased of me or another reason
Thank you and all his family seems really excepting and all his friends and family know I'm prego and everyone seems excited to meet me
How long have you two been together? It doesn't sound like very long to me.
I think if he can't present YOU to EVERYONE he knows and you are pregnant with his child you have your answer. Hey, if a guy was being discriminative about who he was taking me around in regards to his friends/family and I was carrying his child I know I wouldn't be very happy about that AT ALL.
He might not be taking you around these certain people because they may have voiced that they don't care for you......why....who knows; people can be weird that way. Some people might not like you for the color of your hair; something stupid and petty OR he is being "shady" when he is around these people OR because the fact you're pregnant and he isn't ready for everyone to know this.
I would recommend keeping your "eyes" and "ears" open and try to gather more info about this. Any way you look at this something ISN'T right. I know my mother ALWAYS told me to follow my gut.
Go to the family gathering and enjoy yourself. Perhaps you will gain more insight into the situation there.
I think if he can't present YOU to EVERYONE he knows and you are pregnant with his child you have your answer. Hey, if a guy was being discriminative about who he was taking me around in regards to his friends/family and I was carrying his child I know I wouldn't be very happy about that AT ALL.
He might not be taking you around these certain people because they may have voiced that they don't care for you......why....who knows; people can be weird that way. Some people might not like you for the color of your hair; something stupid and petty OR he is being "shady" when he is around these people OR because the fact you're pregnant and he isn't ready for everyone to know this.
I would recommend keeping your "eyes" and "ears" open and try to gather more info about this. Any way you look at this something ISN'T right. I know my mother ALWAYS told me to follow my gut.
Go to the family gathering and enjoy yourself. Perhaps you will gain more insight into the situation there.
phina, I think you've answered your own question. I don't know how you came to know that a girl said you aren't up to his standards, who would have told you she said that (or worse horror, she said that in your presence and your boyfriend didn't say anything back) but it seems to me, since you know she said that, you've got your answer about why he doesn't bring you around.
Because he feels like his friends/family think that.
I don't know specifically what the girl meant by that - looks, background, behavior, etc., (none of us here know you so we're all just guessing at what the problem is here).
Great that he's bringing you to a larger family gathering. Dress nicely, be sweet and loving, and respectable, and afterwards say nice things about how much you liked his family, and that will probably go a long way toward mending this.
At 21, the problem may actually just be that he doesn't want to be tied down - he still wants to be single which is normal for 21 year old male maturity level.
Because he feels like his friends/family think that.
I don't know specifically what the girl meant by that - looks, background, behavior, etc., (none of us here know you so we're all just guessing at what the problem is here).
Great that he's bringing you to a larger family gathering. Dress nicely, be sweet and loving, and respectable, and afterwards say nice things about how much you liked his family, and that will probably go a long way toward mending this.
At 21, the problem may actually just be that he doesn't want to be tied down - he still wants to be single which is normal for 21 year old male maturity level.
Yes I know its not good I talked to him about again yesterday so let's see what happens he is taking me to a family get together where I will meet more family
Look--bottomline here is that he has to change--this is not good enough at all.Your not just some puppet he hides in a closet away from everyone and takes you out when he feels like it.This type of behaviour is not on.
I'm 20about to be 21 and they do know about me and actually some saybthey want to meet me and its like Idk what to do
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Well, that hurts and I don't know if you'll ever get an honest answer from him about that. If you weren't expecting, I'd tell you to move on because I wouldn't want a guy that acted ashamed of me and didn't want to bring me around certain people. You've asked him what the problem is and he denies a problem and yet, you are not invited. Do they even know about you? What if you just show up?? But either way, that is hurtful and I'd again, say move on if you weren't pregnant.
but you are. sign. That means you two are forever connected. How old are you both.
but you are. sign. That means you two are forever connected. How old are you both.
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Okay, let me try this with you. . . what does your gut say? Is he hiding something FROM you or is he hiding YOU?
I also agree with you but a lot of the times when he goes out with certain friends his ex is there and that makes me think even more do you think he might still have something for her and when she is there most of the time he will not tell me I find out another way
Oh I have tried that my best friend is a guy I haven't seen in like 2years or so and he just moved back to Cali and everytime he sees me texting him he gets upset and says I'm flirting
COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, could you ask to do something with X this weekend (one of the friends you feel he is keeping you from). Push the issue and try to get him to set up a get together in which you go to and see how he reacts.
I have asked him he says he is not but yet he won't take me around certain people but when it comes to.me he wants to meet all my friends and know everything that's going on
COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, again, I'm curious if you've ever asked him about this and what he's said. Learning to talk to one another about things that bother you is really important even if you are kind of afraid to hear the answer. Better to get out in the open. good luck, try talking to him and let us know how it goes.
I have meet his immediate family and I have meet some friends but with some other friends he won't take me around and also he has a lot of friends that are girls but that doesn't bother me but one of them said I wasn't ro his standards and he didn't say anything to her so i don't know his immediate fam seem to like me though
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Some people compartmentalize their lives due to their own issues. Or they may have some shame about a situation---- either embarressed of the person they are dating or embarressed of their family. (same w/ friends)
I think that if you are having a baby together and all, it is really key that you learn to talk to one another. What does he have to say about this subject? Have you come out and asked him about it?
I think that if you are having a baby together and all, it is really key that you learn to talk to one another. What does he have to say about this subject? Have you come out and asked him about it?
Either that or he is up to something.I'm not saying he is doing this but alot of men don't bring their partners to family gatherings or to meet friends because they might be flirting with other women.Just a suggestion--talking to him,you deserve an explanation.
It's so hard to tell what the problem is. It may be that he's afraid of what his friends or family members will reveal about him, or what you will reveal about him to them.
It seems like you must have kind of a "gut feeling" what the problem is - does he act like he's embarrassed by you?
It seems like you must have kind of a "gut feeling" what the problem is - does he act like he's embarrassed by you?
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