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5597934 tn?1373536864

is it wrong to trap your SO into cheating

I've suspected my SO of online flings for a while would it be wrong to make a fake fb account and flirt with him?
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Avatar universal
I agree with SpecialMom and NurseGirl.

"He's a porn addict who has repeatedly promised to quit but won't"
"He has a lock on His phone"
"He won't ever let me look"
"He will switch to home screen as soon as I walk in"
"I ask Him who He's talking to, He won't tell Me"
"He says He's never on FaceBook but adds Friends all the time"
"He won't change His relationship status from single"

You already have serious irelationship ssues.  Why do You need to know if there's one more?
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480448 tn?1426948538
Wow, some really concerning suggestions here.  I have to agree with sm 100%.  

And suggestions to trap the daddy into certain situations so he has less rights to the baby?  Regardless of cheating or no cheating, a child shouldn't be used as a pawn in relationship games.

Tackle these issues as an adult, otherwise you're no more honest than the person you think is being dishonest.

Good luck.
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973741 tn?1342342773
COMMUNITY LEADER
In all honesty, once you start going down this road, there is no going back.  I wouldn't make a fake account and pretend to be someone else and flirt with him.  

I honestly think that when we are that suspicious of our mate, we have real relationship issues.  And if we join our partner in devious deeds, we are just as bad.  

I'd rather see couples attempt to handle things through communication.  If someone has a porn addict partner, address the porn addiction before accusing them of cheating.  

BTW ---  while I'd have a fit if my husband were flirting with random women on the internet, I also would need to keep in perspective that flirting isn't cheating.  many people, men and women, flirt with the opposite sex and it is basically innocent.  

But I'd address the issues within the marriage and the porn addiction by trying to see a counselor together.  good luck
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lol, too bad im screwed
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4983320 tn?1378402268
I did that to my ex and he of course flirted. Then I hacked into his fb account and read all the  messages he'd been sending other girls.  That's why he's my ex. I thank God I didn't have kids with  him.
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Hun. I don't wanna stress you out anymore than you should be but if marriages of 4,5,10,20,40 years fall apart. I don't wanna hear it. Regardless of 1 year like me or 6 like yours. THAT is never a factor. That's the least of his worries when he's snooping around. If you want to wait, so be it, but don't even say you've no where to go. You have options. If he hits you? Whats your excuse. You need to leave and think things through. Leave because you need to be alone and relaxed. Not because he is a pig. He may be the father of your child but he's not jesus. With that being said, I am no one to tell you what to do but Im just suggesting for you to leave now or suffer greatly later. AND if you don't want to make this into something it's not, don't say a thing and leave. FOR YOURSELF. remember that.
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I agree.
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5597934 tn?1373536864
It's just that I've been with him for 6 years and to find out he's a cheater would be devastating also I don't have anywhere to go right now but my sister said o could move in with her in a few months now is not a good time for a blow up and I don't want to stress anymore than I *** already am because I'm a high risk pregnancy and at risk for preterm labor. I'll get to the bottom of this in a couple months
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5426152 tn?1382129604
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Just a suggestion. If you do wait til after baby comes don't let him sign the birth certificate. That way if he is cheating he has less rights to your baby.
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Wouldn't you wanna know sooner than later? anyway, if youre gonna do that please stay away and don't be his fool.
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5597934 tn?1373536864
I'm going to wait until the baby is born to set the trap I shouldnt tackle the pain of the truth while pregnant I hope its not true but we'll see
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he has PTSD from Iraq and Afghanistan and he'll sometimes talk about weird things and will answer things I ask (on purpose I do this) and he gave me his password for the phone once I found WAY too many things. I got disgusted and I felt like hell. but it was enough for me to leave EVEN though I tried to work at it and give him a chance. after we broke up he started talking and facetiming a girl. it only took him less than 24 hrs. so that was my deal breaker. don't let it get this far. he is now rude and nasty to me.
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5111430 tn?1377663221
Make sure you have friends on the fake fb, and pics etc. So he thinks its real
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Avatar universal
Use my facebook if you must lol.
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I don't wanna jump the gun but... he is. That's more than enough for you. The reason I say that is because my baby daddy has always had a HUGE thing for women. Their beauty bodies and what have you. A HUGE womanizer its disgusting to me because he's not like creepy perv but I found that he was going on craigslist looking for easy local sluts on the "men seeking women" and probably banging them. HE had access to my accounts, phone, and honesty. I had none in return. He had nasty emails and pics. SAVED from his ex wife of almost 2 years now. and he was secretely trying to get back with her. send her flowers (and me at the same time) that little ****. and I cant even finish because it's too long. but that behavior is that of a frightened insecure boy.
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All that stuff sounds fishy. When I suspected my husband of cheating I just moved his phone screen around in the light while he was sleeping (the oils on your fingers leave a mark on the screen) and unlocked it. He was sexting some other girl out of state and when I confronted him I had a wine bottle thrown at my head (he is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict so that stuff doesn't happen anymore). Have you tried asking him about it? Or looking through his Facebook wall?
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5597934 tn?1373536864
He won't change his relationship status from single
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5597934 tn?1373536864
He's a porn addict who has repeatedly promised to quit but wont. He has a lock on his phone. Won't ever let me look. He will switch to home screen as soon as I walk.in the room I ask him who he's talking to he won't tell me he says he's never on fb but has no problem adding friends all the time. He won't change his relationsh
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Tel us, what makes you suspicious?
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5597934 tn?1373536864
Yeah I'm kindof scared too I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I have a 16 month old I'm afraid to find out the truth
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I've always been scared to try this just because of the result!
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5049711 tn?1364572195
I did it... You just need to be careful and to this day he has no idea it was me. I wouldn't tell him and just ask if he has anything to confess, if he says no, you know he's lying and that means he'll lie about anything.. If he comes clean then you know he feels bad and does want to start over and come clean with everything. I caught my hub and he confessed and were still working on everything but its SO much better now then what it was. Hope this helps hun but really think it threw!
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