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leaving my husband

I have been married to aman for almost 6 years. Since the day we met, we have had sex only 10 times. He is mentally cruel to me, hates my cooking, I have cooked in restaurants, blames  me for anything that goes wrong./ I have been sleeping on my couch for 3 months, he has never asked me why. I want out so much. He makes me feel useless and I know Im not, I raised 3 children, had homes, but this man is tearing me down. We live in a small apartment that I hate. I have fallen in love with someone else that loves me unconditionally. How do I go about leaving with out him being more furiopus?
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I agree with above.  In all honesty, I think leaving this man is completely proper at this point.  However, it is very risky to go immediately into another relationship.  Those have a high failure rate.  If it takes going straight to another man in order to leave a bad relationship, often, we are setting ourselves up for another issue because when we do that, we tend to overlook many things.  We are just escaping.  And then the new man's flaws surface.  It's not a good way to move on in life.  But leaving for a better life for yourself makes sense.  And then you can think about life and what you want for yourself. Spend some time on your own  And THEN it is a time to meet someone new.  best of luck to you dear
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Ditto NG.
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480448 tn?1426948538
What I find so sad is that women often stay and put up with being mistreated, under-appreciated, even emotionally abused for years, until they find someone else.  

I think leaving your husband is a must, based on what you've said.  Leaving him and going immediately into another relationship is a recipe for disaster.  Rebound relationships, and relationships with a foundation of infidelity hardly EVER work.  

I think you would be better served spending time without a man, trying to figure out exactly why it is that you put up with such treatment for so long.

Good luck to you.
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3149845 tn?1506627771
Hi, just be careful your not jumping to some else to help you get out of this situation and if he is the father of the children, there could be legal issue if you just up and take them.
If things are bad as you say, make your move to leave without him knowing. Make a plan to be gone by the time he comes home. Avoiding a physical confrontation with him and dont let him know where you are. Remember there maybe some legal issues to take the children and maybe call the police to ask the laws regarding this.
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