love? or just a crush?

[r3dfl0w]

i'm 19, and this woman is 30. recently we've decided to be friends with benefits. we agreed to not get attatched to eachother.. to just be buds ya know.. But we've started to grow a really strong friendship, and its always fun hanging out with her. Today we were talking, and she told me how she gets this weird feeling around me. she said its this feeling in her chest, and she can't really use words to describe it. she said she's never really had this feeling before, which is to my surprise because well... she's 30... so she says she's a bit confused. anyway, we avoided trying to describe it as the "L" word.. because we said we didn't want to get attatched.. so i guess my question is... well is it?? or is this some kind of little crush? and ya know whats really weird..? we've only known eachother for 2 months. And also its not sex.. she knows it isn't, i know it isn't.. its just not a feeling you get with someone from sex. I'd like to say that its just a little crush.. but i don't know...

[Lilmama933]

I think you really do think you love this woman and maybe this woman loves you but coming from me a 19 year old dating a 30 year old is CRAZY

I understand u cant let go but trust me friends with benifets is not the best thing to do. There could be a chance this 30 year old woman doesnt love you and just wants to play around and experiment!

i think the best thing to do is follow your heart and TRULY know where its taking you

Hope this helps :)

[angie262]

its the sex i think the 2 of u are attached.

[r3dfl0w]

like i said.. sex has nothing to do with it lol

[Londres70]

Sounds like you all are developing feelings for eachother; can't say these feelings are feelings of love being you all have only been together for a couple of months.

Usually, the "friends with benefits" situations don't last very long because usually strong feelings, etc. come into play for one or both persons and then the situation becomes too complicated because strong feelings or feelings of love are fought to be kept out of the equation.  

In my opinion, it is easier for a woman to become attached to a man in these situations than a man to a woman.  

[Kayannaboo]

First of all friends with benefits...it don't work! If it does, then its a really slim chance. When you spend time with someone and then sex comes in the mix, there is a very big possibility that JUST friends is thrown out the window.

As to the question of whether or not its the "L" word? Only you two can figure that out. You need to ask yourself how you feel about about this woman and she needs to ask herself how she feels about you. If you both want a relationship, then go for it. If you don't I would suggest you stop the whole FWB thing or someone is going to get hurt.

Good Luck.

[specialmom]

Yes, it is very hard to say exaclty what it is.  Only the two of you can define it.  If you are open to an adult, dating relationship with her and she to you, then see where it goes.  If you aren't, then it maybe a bad idea to continue so no one gets there feelings hurt.  good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

It could be love, or an equally strong emotion.  If someone is lonely, it's great to have someone to hang around with and laugh with and care about.  Also, maybe her biological clock is throwing some hormones into the mix.