me being bi

[cowboy20022002]

I dont undstand why if  a lady loves me and care for me that she can not exsept me being bi it has been 4 yrs since i been with a man

[AnnaE]

I do not think you are talking to me, but human adult sexual development does not include sex with children, only with sex among adult humans.

I was talking against discrimination against homosexual adults, who are innocent of harm to others.

What happened to your son is so painfully tragic. Naturally, it colors your feelings about homosexuality, and naturally you are angry. You are not on a campaign to hurt homsexuals, you are grieveng a horrible, incredible loss.

[SeriousSam]

Teko is probably one of the most thoughtful and caring people I have met on medhelp.  Honestly comparing her to a racist is unfair and quite honestly inaccurate as not liking someones behaviors is notthe sames as judging someones appearance.

If someone is gay fine.  BUt I do not feel bi-or gay people make the best parents or caregivers to children UNDER 5 years old if they are going to put their gender preferences on display.

[lonewolf07]

What you say isn't offensive - you come across as close minded and unwilling to consider theories that differ with your own.  Your words about gays, lebians, bis, etc. are similar to those used by racists.  The details are different but the message is similar - anything "different" must be bad/evil.  AIDS is terrible; people with AIDS are not.

But then I'm scary and need therapy so what do I know?

[Kim1989]

teko-

im so sorry to hear about your son. its very clear that this topic does have a great deal of impact on you. it would be hard not to have an impact on you. im sure he was a very strong man and was great. and you teko are very strong as well!!!

[gator145]

I must say that I agree with some of what you say.....Some of it I find quite jaded.....
But as you said that is your view on the subjuect and that right is yours to have....

Having been sexually abused as a child I could not agree more with you on the subject of child sex....(Yes it does happen to males as well as females and women are the agressors)..........There is no place in society for this than there is for screen doors on submarines.....Animal sex is another aspect of sexuality I disagree with.....

My reasoning is these two areas do not offer reasonable consent from the non adult "partner"........ I always have and will feel, without normal consent  then the act is wrong.....

I think we tend to be more pasionate on the issues we are more familiar with especially when these areas have affected us from a personal point.... So again I agree  whole heartedly with you on these issues....

As for your son I am so sorry you went through what you did....I'm sure it was, and is so very painful.....

[AnnaE]

Theories of sexuality have less to do with nuts and bolts than they ever have. They have to do with adult development, and the fact that sexual preference does not make one right or wrong. The notion regarding adult development, which is a process and not a "state" and sexuality (derived from something called "queer theory, by the way, and it is not what you think, but it is derived from what you think) is that we know very little about sexuality, and it could be that heterosexual sex, homosexual sex, and bisexual lifestyles are all likely parts or facets of sexuality. However Western Culture has a way of polarizing everything, and making a dominant group "right" and a minority group "wrong." And it ain't necessarily so.

This theory made me shut my mouth regarding my doubts that homosexuality is not unhealthy. So did having one of my best friends decide she was gay (about 20 years ago; we are no longer in touch), and hearing my gay hairdresser's observations about dealing with his homsexuality in the face of a heterosexual-dominant society.

We know very little; much is to be discovered. Think of medicine. Doctors (we hope) treat on the basis of what is known, but what is known is very little.

I have to remind myself of this all the time. It sure chases depression away many times, and gets me out of the four walls. It is thrilling for me, to learn more about the world and about ourselves. And we can learn sometimes from very unlikely sources.

I know that I forget about this sometimes, and I think maybe most people do. We have so much to learn and that process can help us lead more peaceful lives. During very difficult circumstances, it is very difficult to be open minded; at least it has been scary to me during the last 18 months. I hope that all of us can have a break of some kind from trauma and pain, because I know that many of us on this forum have been through a lot lately.