I also did end up moving closer cause i thought maybe his sudden unwillingness to move in with me was because we really had not spent significant time with one another except over vacations
If you go back and reread the first section of your post, you know the problem and answer. You rejected his invitation to move in, now he rejected yours...you hurt his feeling by not wanting to move in with him. I don't think he is ready to take the relationship to the next level and if you pressure him on the subject, you will push him away. You had your chance and he did what he had to do and got comfortable with the lifestyle. Your choice is to accept the relationship as is and hope that within time and future your relationship will move towards the next level, if you nag him on it, he will eventually get tired of it and leave you, or communicate with him how you feel and maybe when the lease is up, he will reconsider living with you. I just don't think he's ready right now to take it to a higher level. Good luck. Judy
well we had been together six months if that...only saw each other on friday night, saturday and sunday morning...i accepted but when my brother thought up the buying idea i spoke with him and we agreeed that if i could own then it was a good investment and he could move in to that place
It seems like his emotions were running high and "in the heat of the moment" when he first asked you to move in with him, even if it was only a mere six months after you'd started dating one another. Now that you all have been together and have established the relationship, he more than likely sees where there are things that need to be worked on before moving in together. I don't know your boyfriend, and I can only go on what you've stated in your post above -- but it sounds like he just isn't ready for that sort of move with you right now. If you leave him over this, that just goes to show that the relationship was only meant for pushing the button of moving fast. My husband and I were together for almost three and a half years before we moved in together. It takes time sweety, so try not to doubt his reasons too much.
I think you need to talk with him about it, tell him how his not wanting to move in is making you feel and ask him where he sees you guys in 5 years time. You should know your answer after that. He may just not be ready for that kind of commitment, and if you push him into making it before he is ready, you will just lose him.