problem with sis

[jumkilo]

I am 18 yo male and gay. I have met an older male about a year ago and plan to move in with him. He also happens to be a colleague at my place of employment.
I presently live at home with my parents (who would be pleased to see the back of me I am sure) and my sister who has just turned 11.
I have always had a very close relationship with sis and I still like her a lot, but things have become seriously difficult since she learned that I planned to move out. We have separate bedrooms now; until a year ago we shared a bedroom with separate beds. From the age of about four she has climbed into bed beside me at night because she was cold, or had bad dreams, or for cuddles. At no time was she interfered with sexually. We have always kissed a lot and had pretend wresting matches, the usual kind of things siblings get up to. We never at any time as far as I can remember played ‘doctors’ or anything of the sort. We camped out in the garden occasionally and I babysat her a lot. I have to repeat this: at no time was she molested by me.
In the past year she had become more persistently possessive and aggressive with me. She tries to tongue me when we kiss, she comes into my bed naked, she straddles me when I sit watching television even when my parents are there, and gropes my genitals when they are not. She cries when I reprimand her or when I go out at night. She says I no longer love her, but I do love her intensely, but not in a sexual way, and I would do anything for her. I try to tell her that I am gay, but she simply does not believe me.
Yesterday she threatened to complain to my parents to tell them that I have been doing sexual things and molesting her when we are alone if I move in with my friend. She also threatened to make complaints to her teachers at school about me and tell her classmates that we have been lovers. I am tempted to treat these as empty threats, but she has changed in the past year and I am sure she could do a lot of damage.
Any suggestions?

[Kayannaboo]

Great idea Rose! I didn't even think of that. Record her and bring the tape to your parents. Don't make it obvious, she seems to be quite smart. Just say "why would you tell such a lie on me?" or something along those lines.

[RockRose]

I think you need to get a recording device - today - and have a conversation with her in private (with the recorder) where you say you're concerned about the conversation that she's going to tell people you've been having a sexual relationship,  and ask her again if she still plans to lie about it.  Then let her either say yes she will,  or  she's decided not to.  

You need this on tape.  This sounds serious,  considering that others must have noticed that she treats you in a very sexual way.

[Kayannaboo]

I know of cases where children are possessive and jealous of their siblings or parents but this is far worse. I agree with Londres that it was quite strange to learn that you two were sharing a bedroom. I worry that your sister perceived your relationship for far much more. Has she ever out rightly stated that she sees you as much more than a brother? Scary as it seems I suggest saying something to your parents before this gets out of hand. There are ways to find out if she has been molested by means of a doctor or psychologist.

Your sister definitely needs professional help and fast, she seems to have some serious issues in need of care. Talk with her gently and try to get through to her. Let her know that you will always be her brother and that you will always love her but her behavior rotten and that you will be forced to separate yourself from her if she doesn't change. I hope you get through to her.


Anna

[Londres70]

Are your parents aware of ALL of this?  

Sounds like your sister has some serious issues that should be addressed with professional help.  

I know you stated nothing inappropriate has ever happened between you and your sister, but could she have been molested by someone else?  Is that a possibility?  

Not to be rude, but I find that strange that you both shared a bedroom up until a year ago.  

Something just doesn't sound right.  There are no other "pieces and parts" missing from your story?  Correct?