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sad and confused
I am 25 and my boyfriend of two years is 40. When we met he told me that he was seperated and had been casually dating. And the papers were to be soon filed for divorce. Its been two years and he is still married. He keeps making promises to me that he has not yet sccomplished. He told me that he does not know how to tell his kids that he wants to leave. He also tells me that he has a check that every month, and that if he leaves his wife will get the money. Writung this and thinkinking about it makes me feel like i am wasting my time and energy. I love him and i have enjoyed our time together. He still sleeps there but he spends most of the week at my house. I don't know what to do. I do not know what to believe. We had a missed miscarriage in nov. and it brought us even closer. does anyone have any advice for me? please help? it hurts me to know that he goes there and may be sleeping with her when i am 100% faithful. Also she knows about me.
"i am 100% faithful"
I'm sorry, I know Love hurts, unbearably sometimes. But if you're sleeping with a married man, you are NOT 100% faithful. If you stay in this relationship in any way, shape or form, you will ALWAYS be "sad and confused." Listen to everyone, don't be a statistic! I like the advice you got to RUN GIRL RUN!!!!
I'm sorry, I know Love hurts, unbearably sometimes. But if you're sleeping with a married man, you are NOT 100% faithful. If you stay in this relationship in any way, shape or form, you will ALWAYS be "sad and confused." Listen to everyone, don't be a statistic! I like the advice you got to RUN GIRL RUN!!!!
It's not really about him.
It's about "drtnyblake".
He's not posting here, she is!
She's the one who can get away from it and she'd be wise to do so. Especially before she gets pregnant again! HE's got the issues and the bad behavior and he has to live with himself...oh yes and so does his wife who is yet another winner, she even knows about the girlfriend.
The miscarriage brought you closer? Well, so you like drama in your life then?
Maybe a normal life is just too boring for all you people!
It's about "drtnyblake".
He's not posting here, she is!
She's the one who can get away from it and she'd be wise to do so. Especially before she gets pregnant again! HE's got the issues and the bad behavior and he has to live with himself...oh yes and so does his wife who is yet another winner, she even knows about the girlfriend.
The miscarriage brought you closer? Well, so you like drama in your life then?
Maybe a normal life is just too boring for all you people!
I am sorry but I have to say that being "chicken" is not an excuse for leading a life that is a lie and hurting everyone in the process. That is the definition of the word SCUM.
Honestly, you would really benefit from some counselling. You have to find out why you are settling for this....
sticky situation... but i kinda have a different view than other posts. (sorry ladies). i have a lot of older friends, men and women. and people that have affairs are not all scum, sometimes they are just too chicken to leave. its easier to have a double life, than to go through a divorce. especially with kids and money situations.
so i actually bealive that ur guy wants to be with u. hes probably honest about his feelings about u. and im sure he's miserable at home. and u give him something that his wife could not. thats not her fault or his, just what it is.
BUT!... i can almost garantee that he will not leave her for u. if he hasnt done it yet, he will never do it. for many reasons.
the only way he will leave that marriage, if his wife kicks him out. and when he does get out i bet ya he wont want another family. he probably would be happy to be with u, but i doubt he would marry u.
so i still say get out of this relationship, too much dramma. yes its hard and yes it will hurt, but in the long run u will feel a lot better and stronger! and u will feel better about urself!
good luck
so i actually bealive that ur guy wants to be with u. hes probably honest about his feelings about u. and im sure he's miserable at home. and u give him something that his wife could not. thats not her fault or his, just what it is.
BUT!... i can almost garantee that he will not leave her for u. if he hasnt done it yet, he will never do it. for many reasons.
the only way he will leave that marriage, if his wife kicks him out. and when he does get out i bet ya he wont want another family. he probably would be happy to be with u, but i doubt he would marry u.
so i still say get out of this relationship, too much dramma. yes its hard and yes it will hurt, but in the long run u will feel a lot better and stronger! and u will feel better about urself!
good luck
He is a dirty old man cheating on his wife with someone he views as a trophy. I hate to say it, but he thinks of you as his piece of tail on the side.
Harsh I know, but you need to wake up and get out of this before he robs you of anymore of your youth.
Don't date married men, any guy who goes against vows he made before God and witnesses does not have the character to be worth your time. He is a liar and a cheat. Do you really think you will be happy with him in the long run?
Run girl run!!!
Harsh I know, but you need to wake up and get out of this before he robs you of anymore of your youth.
Don't date married men, any guy who goes against vows he made before God and witnesses does not have the character to be worth your time. He is a liar and a cheat. Do you really think you will be happy with him in the long run?
Run girl run!!!
the first rule of dating a man that is separated is to make sure he's already out of the house and on his own, at least he's made that most important steps. this man is having his cake and eating it to, why would you think he would give up a good thing he's got going. I have to say I think it may have been a blessing regarding your miscarraige, I'm sorry to say. why would you want to bring a baby into this world in that type of situation, it's not fair to the baby and right now it's not fair to you. In this type of relationship situation I would write down the pros and cons of the relationship and take a look and see which one out ways the other. I think you'll see he's using you and you deserve better.
What is happening to women in this country?
Drtny, you're being stupid. This man is old enough to be your father, and he's still with his wife, and you're having sex with him and thank God that pregnancy didn't take, because that would be one miserable suffering baby.
Open your eyes.
Drtny, you're being stupid. This man is old enough to be your father, and he's still with his wife, and you're having sex with him and thank God that pregnancy didn't take, because that would be one miserable suffering baby.
Open your eyes.
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