Thank you for the comments. I am trying really hard to trust him. We did have a great talk And I can see that he is trying to show me that he is not cheating. He also talked about those other girls and how he is going to just stop. He told me it will be hard but he will do it. I asked if he was going to tell them anything and he said no because they don't need to know why. And the are low to him. He only did it to see and hear what he wanted too. Because I don't do it.. I have been trying to get out of my depression and try as well for him.. not anal but other things that makes for a happy sexual relationship and he tells me that he is happy that I am trying. Is it wrong to ask him to see his phone so it can help me trust him more?
Thank you for the comments. I am trying really hard to trust him. We did have a great talk And I can see that he is trying to show me that he is not cheating. He also talked about those other girls and how he is going to just stop. He told me it will be hard but he will do it. I asked if he was going to tell them anything and he said no because they don't need to know why. And the are low to him. He only did it to see and hear what he wanted too. Because I don't do it.. I have been trying to get out of my depression and try as well for him.. not anal but other things that makes for a happy sexual relationship and he tells me that he is happy that I am trying. Is it wrong to ask him to see his phone so it can help me trust him more?
Absolutely agree with mbsc1981.
First and foremost, never do anything sexually that you find to be painful.
Second, I'm going to go ahead and say this: I find it to be a poor excuse to sext other women because I can't have sex with my wife's butt. I'm not married, but it wouldn't make a difference in my opinion if I were.
Third, this is going to take counseling and mediation. Look, you're obviously distraught. Personally? I would be, too. But message boards can only do you so much good in a situation like this. This needs a professional family counselor to navigate. If he says he loves you and he means it, he'll understand and he'll go to a counselor with you.