telling all future sexual partners??

[hsjsgjvnn]

My doctor diagnosed me with genital warts about two years ago. I got them treated and had one more outbreak 15 months ago. All good since then.

My doctor told me I would have the virus for life and that I must disclose this history to all future partners. From reading through the above, I get the impression maybe I was confused about what he said.

At the time when I heard those words, my head went nuts, as you probably all know the feeling - this isn't happening to me! I could barely think straight. I tried to listen but dealt with it and since have researched it.

What's the deal? Do I have to disclose to every partner before I have sex with them?

I'll never have unprotected sex or let any one give me head... i can live with that, but I am very upset by the prospect of never being able to meet new people and possibly being intimate with them while using protection while having no symptoms for over 15 months at least.

Should I get a second opinion? Will the virus go away ever? I am getting very healthy, and might start taking vitamin A if that helps (it helps tree-man).

my two questions are: Do I have to disclose to every partner before I have sex with them? Will the virus ever go away fully?

[el_em_en_oh]

I'm gonna have to go with penswriter on this one... YES, you have to disclose this fact to each and every future sexual partner. It's unfortunate that it has to be this way, but it's the responsible thing for you to do.

As was stated in the first response to your post... how would you like it if the situation was reversed and you were to have sexual contact with a man/woman that had an STD, and he/she didn't tell you about it? You'd be livid. Even if you use protection, you still have to disclose, as no form of protection is 100% secure.

And as penswriter said... it's incurable (for the time being anyway). Unfortunately, it's not like a bad haircut that'll go away in time. You'll be a carrier of this virus for the rest of your life. Outbreak or not, symptomatic or not, you'll carry of the virus forever.

It's not the end of the world dude. I've dated women that have disclosed an STD to me, and it's just a matter of being a little bit more cautious. OVER-cautious even. It wasn't a show-stopper, and it doesn't have to be with you and your future partners.

Now, I'd say that one-night-stands go out the window for you, as the minute you disclose your STD to a complete stranger that you're about to bed'down, he/she will bail, but if you're in a relationship scenario, I feel certain that your soon-to-be lover will be understanding and respectful of your situation, and be happy that you told him/her about it.

Good luck my friend.

LMNO

[penswriter]

Yes, you do. It's a disgusting and vile thing NOT to tell someone you're going to have sex with that you have an std...whether you had an outbreak yesterday or 15 years ago. How would YOU feel if you found out someone you had sexual intercourse with has this incurable disease and never told you? Protected or not. Accidents do happen, condoms break.

And no, it's one of those uncurable std's. You have it for life.