waiting

[doubledeedee]

So I know this isn't really a question but my bf and I have been discussing marriage for a while and planning a future together and now I'm just waiting. On a ring ! The anticipation is getting to me. I know when we want to get married but I want my ring soon. Sorry I just had to rant outloud.

[doubledeedee]

Thanks

[TTinKKerBBell]

If You are planning to Marry and spend the Rest of Your Lives Together, it seems to me that the subject of a ring could be up for discussion.

Just ask Him when He thinks it might be a good time for You to proudly wear an engagement ring.  Don't be shy to discuss important, major things...... in a marriage there will be many other important things to discuss
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You might not mind waiting if You know how long is the wait.

[doubledeedee]

I'm being patient , but of course when u want something your anxious about it. We don't live together and he is finacially stable just waiting fir the right moment. He originally bought up the subject and then I gave him a list of things we need to do before we get engaged.  I know when the time is right it will come but I had to vent about waiting.

[specialmom]

Sweetie, this is no unusual.  I knew my husband bought a ring for me.  We went to his jeweler and picked out diamond shape and size together!!  I waited and waited.  He was intent on making it special.  My girlfriend went through the exact same thing.  

Sometimes men have to do it in their own way and in their own time.  

When it did finally happen with my husband, he was a nervous wreck.  I knew that he was going to ask me that day just because he was acting so strange!  

so think of this as a special time while he plots how he will propose.  Be patient and I'm sure the day will come if you've discussed it and it seems he is just as enthusiastic as you.  good luck

[nursegirl6572]

Can you give us a little background?  Like how old you guys are, how long you've been together, are you living together?  Both working?  Financially stable?  

Rings are expensive.  It's possible perhaps he cannot afford the kind he wants to give you right now.  Depending on how long you've been together, it may be a little premautre for him to take that next step.  

Talking about it and doing it are two totally different things.  If he IS hesitant about moving forward, the last thing you want to do is pressure him.  Sounds like there may be reasons why isn't diving in just yet...maybe money, stability, fear of committment?   If it's because he maybe doesn't feel you guys are in the best position financially, or have enough stability, that's a pretty fair reason.  

You have to decide if you can be patient or if you've grown tired of empty promises.  With more details, it's hard to say whether or not you're being reasonable about this or not.

Hang in there!!

[doubledeedee]

We haven't set a date yet , just a time frame.  Its just we keep talking about marriage and merging and I'm like. I want a ring. We've been doing all the leg work for future plans so I think it is time for a ring.

[BluCrystal]

So.... you have mutually agreed to marry on whatever day, and you don't get an engagement ring?  I don't think that's fair.  And it's certainly out of the ordinary.  The man is supposed to propose, and offer an engagement ring for the future bride until marriage, when you exchange rings.  I can see how the whole thing can be construed as selfishness on your part (the bride to be).  That is not the case at all, I understand totally why you want your engagement ring: so you can show that you are engaged, that you are worth the ring and then some, and show you are proud to be 'taken'.  I would just ask him when you will receive it, and if he doesn't want to tell you, then you get to squeal and gush 'It's gonna be a surprise!  How sweet!'  :-)  Blessings to you both - Blu