what are these stains

[blueberrypie478]

my hubby always leaves his boxers inside out which gets on my nerves.

occasionally i notice white (ish) stains. nothing big, just some little smudges or sometimes tiny drops.

he has quite a low sex drive, doesn't masturbate, and i dont think he is cheating, so what are these stains?

i am pretty sure he isnt cheating, he doesnt have the opportunity, he works all day (mechanic) then comes home to me, never goes out. And I believe him when he says he doesnt masturbate as the computer is in the living room, so I'm sure I would notice lol. And if he did it in the shower, it wouldnt make stains as he doesnt put his boxers on after, we sleep naked.

i only seem to notice these stains on the days after we haven't had sex. someone said it could be semen build up, where a tiny bit leaks out cos he hasn't ejaculated for a day or two.

but we haven't had sex since thursday night and there have been no stains all weekend? and sometimes there are stains (not as many and not as often) on the days where we've had sex the night before.

so i am confused?

at first i thought he must be cheating somehow, as the stains seemed to be only on the days where we havent had sex the night before, because he is the one who refuses sex (i never say no) which made mne think he was making excuses because he'd already had sex (with someone else)

i dont know what to think - he doesnt want sex as often as me, he's the one who says no and says he's too tired etc. is that normal?

we sleep naked, and i do all the laundry, so i know he isn't having wet dreams. And we have sex at night usually, so the stains aren't from us as he doesnt put boxers on after. if he's masturbating in the shower then there still wouldnt be stains as he doesnt put boxers on after.

if we have sex during the day, there are stains because he puts his boxers back on, which makes me think he may be cheating? as thats how stains are sometimes caused?

and why are there not stains when we've been having sex every day, but if we dont have sex for a day or more, there's stains?

never big stains, just little smudges or tiny drops

no stupid answers please

[imanaddict]

It's probably pre c u m

sorry for the choice of words, I just didn't know how else to put it! =)

[RockRose]

These stains can be a sign of diabetes - crystalized sugar in the urine makes a small white stain.  So when he pees,  tiny droplets are on the inside of his boxers.

[Miayoung]

I fine white stain on my boyfriend boxers he was high drinking with his friends and came home and I saw that on his boxers what can I think is he cheating?

[specialmom]

This is an old post.  I am really of the strong belief though that we should not make determinations of what our partner is up to by underwear stains.  There are other things that would cause white stains on boxers/ underwear so don't jump to conclusions. good luck

[Bonz77]

You must be too paranoid about him having sex with someone else.

[peggy64]

due to the fact that you only post once on these "posts" and have posted the same thing 3 times on 3 different forums, it really makes me think you have a serious problem and this is just to get some kind of reaction.

[raquelplus2]

ya my ex used to get the same thing as well and jus like us how we have some discharge too its normal n i wdnt worry bout it at all.

[Leah71187]

just like a woman's body, a mans body changes daily as well. just because one day when you dont have sex, he has stains, then another day, he doesn't, doesn't mean he's cheating. I firmly believe that his body is just creating a little too much semen some days and it is building up. not everyday tho. maybe some days you turn him on just enough to make some semen build up and thats whats happening. dont worry about it. and as for him saying no: my boyfriend does a similar job and we have the same problem. he is most likely just too tired.

[Ashelen]

I really wouldn't worry about it...I think it's perfectly normal. Just like women who can have odd discharge (heavier, lighter, nonexistant...white, thick, watery, etc) men's semen can have different consistencies and with no reason to suspect him cheating...I would just let it go. Yes I think some boxer stains come from a man putting his boxers on after sex before the fluids on his penis are dry, but honestly if that's the only clue that he might be cheating I wouldn't let it bother me...if you're REALLY concerned this may sound gross...but does his penis smell strange on the days that you notice the stains..like latex, or like sex fluids?

If nothing else is leading you to think he may be cheating just brush it off as one of those gross things penises do, because just like vaginas...they have a mind of their own.