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whats wrng w me

Ok I am thirty years hold me and my husband have been together fifteen years married ten but for the last year or so I have been kind of like addicted to chatting with others online and flirting. I love him and want to be with him forever and he knows I chat online in chat rooms and knows I am a huge flirt. But I feel guilty like I should not be flirting with others. But its like having other guys saying nice things and saying how pretty I am just boosts my self esteem. By the way my husband always tells me how beautiful I am I just don't understand why do I feel the need to hear it from other people and flirt. I feel guilt a lot I feel he deserve better. What's wrong with me
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Hi!  I think it is great that you are questioning yourself and looking deep within.  We could all do more of that, right?  Anyway, flirting online and in chatrooms is definately preferable to doing it in real life.  I think a good question to ask yourself is why you feel the need.  The other ladies have mentioned this as well.  What do you gain by this flirting?  How is it making you feel and why do you lack that in your "real" life?  How could you get that in your "real" life such as from your husband?  I'd really explore that as I think that will be what gives you ultimate happiness.  The internet and chat rooms can be a means of escape as well.  If you are particularly vulnerable right now due to circumstances in your life, these online relationships may be attractive and frankly, can become addictive.  Often times when someone is avoiding a problem in their life, they turn to online time to escape.  I don't know if that is the case with you, but I think it is great that you are asking the question of us and ultimately, of yourself.  good luck
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I think married or not it is very natural to have men compliment us. However, if you go seeking it out, as innocent as that may seem now, it can lead to other things. You know this deep down. It sounds like you have a good thing going in your marriage so be very careful about rocking the boat. Strange things happen when you play those games. You need to quit while your ahead before some nutjob finds you. It does happen you know. And if you are feeling guilty it just shows that you know it is wrong. What if it was your husband doing it? How would you feel about it? I think yer playing with fire.
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Being a "huge flirt" and married is nothing to be proud of or boast about. Although you might consider this behavior "harmless', I'm sure if you husband is aware that you are a "huge flirt", you would be the cause of problems in your relationship. You know it's wrong, because your conscience is bothering you. It's that inner warning that tells us when something is wrong. It' just disrespectful to your husband and your marriage and you need to start working on you and not need other people or men to reafirm your beauty. Start working on the inner issues that need to be addresses and respect your marriage.
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Because deep down you know you're doing something you're not supposed to. Which in itself makes you excited and makes you continue. I think your husband trusts you but I'm sure he would rather you be happy with his adoration and his only. Sounds like you have a wonderful husband. You need to be confident in yourself and not need to look to other people to make you feel good. Try reading some self help books or look into maybe seeing a counselor to work on your self esteem issues.
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Yeah I have no desire or would nvr meet any of the guys. And I do feel like I have low self esteem I just dnt knw y I f3el so guilty
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you're insecure and you need to hear you'r beautiful and all those nice things all the time. You just love other guys attention. A lot of women are like that and if its just chatting online and never going to meet those guys then its not a big deal. along as you're not planning on meeting up with them then i think its fine. If it bothers your husband a lot then maybe you should stop. Maybe get a hobby join a gym or something to get confidence in yourself so you wouldn't need other guys telling you how you're beautiful. Make yourself busy so you don't have much time to go on the computer.
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