when an x box takes over your boyfriend what do you do it makes him lazy and he doesnt pay any attention to me till bed time im soooo lonley

[lonley]

what do i do ive told him that he does this and he wont change im ready to leave him .cause i figure if im this lonely i might as well be single but i dont want to be lonley i want his love i could walk naked infront of him and barely get his attention when he is playing his x box game.  ive tried everything he says that he loves me but you would never know it untill bed time.   help me please save our relationship befor i blow up the x box and he leaves me cause of it haha

[debgunn23]

Haha wow this story sounds familiar! I love video games and play too dont get me wrong, but i bought a xbox 360 and all my husband does is play HALO first thing when he gets up then he goes to work, comes home, plays more xbox until bed time then he hangs out with me for about an hour and starts all over again. Im at the point where i have to BEG him to hang out with me. He wants to and is always caring and nice but its like the video game has him in a trance! Once he plays he forgets his surroundings. I will talk to him and he wont even notice i walked up to him wearing sexy lingeri and he was in awe and grinned and all then focused his eyes back to the screen and forgot i was there again lol Very frustrating.

but i get where you are commin from being lonely. It does, you need to talk to him and let him know. my husband is making an effort but HAS to play every freakin day...If he doesnt care about your feelings and you being lonely screw him, hes no good but if he can at least make an effort 3 hours a day or see if he can give you a whole day together to start, it will help things progress. Its like ciggs you cant just quit cold turkey, gradually work your way down.

[brooklyn_gal]

Have you thought about getting married and combining your finances?  Pls correct me if I'm wrong, but I gather your kids are not your bf's biological kids?

Living together with someone is not the same thing as being married.  Plus, If you get married, your children will become his step children - which is more secure for them.

Obviously you and your bf need to discuss this thoroughly..

In the meantime, you're playing house and I think you're only confusing your children more.  I don't know how old your kids are, but kids do not understand dating.  

Your bf is not responsible for your kids.  Does the biological father pay child support?

[lonley]

thank you for all your replys,   yes i did it, i was the nice g/f who wanted to make him happy and baught the x-box for him . dont get me wrong i like seeing him happy doing his thing but im not into any games that he is and have never liked theese kinds of games . i did try the brain game and in a fight he used it against me so i dont play any more .besids he doesnt even show interest in any thing i do anymore it *****.... and thats not all he is sooooooooooo lazy,  he doesnt think he needs to do much of anything but what he wants.   he pays the his half of the rent so he doesnt need to do much more! we have this ongoing argument that he thinks that,  cause i have 3 kids that i fully support myself , not him.   he thinks he shouldnt have to pay as much as me in bills, he wanted me to pay the bills and my half of the rent and pitch in for groceries we pay $1600.00 a month for our house that we got together . we have been together for over two years now , i just dont know how to deal with our issues . they are always a problem i do pay way more than him but i think that he should be acting like the man of this  family and take on a little more responsability, physically and finanacially tell me if im asking for too much from him? he is a very loving father to me children and they would go nuts with out him i really love him and wish i could just get his attention.thanks yall

[sammy73]

I like Jasmine205's idea - find some two-player game that you can play together, or ask him to teach you to play one of his games.

Many years ago my wife and I bought a Playstation, we'd stay up until the small hours playing Tomb Raider together, taking turns on the controller...

[treazzure007]

stage a break-in and say "oooh, dear lookie here!  they took your x-box!!!"

[Jasmine205]

I hear ya loud and clear on this.

My boyfriend got his last xmas-time- a x-box 360 with a few games ( mostly war ones etc) nothing I am keen on playing at all. And it rotates off playing those and his online browser rpg games as well. I feel left out too.

It's an addiction, clear and simple. Some pl men and women lose themselves in a fantasy world because it's easier to be top dog in a game world then a average person in the real world. You also get to take out your daily frustrations out within that game too.
If he bought his console himself , don't tamper with it, I wouldn't to my boyfriend, that's a lot of hard earned money spent on those and if he's truly upset with you he can place you up on charges for destruction of property.

Go investigate some xbox games you'd like to play ( rockband?) etc and buy one and say to him, ok teach me this because I want to play with you too. See how he responds, if he doesn't even want to be bothered with what you chose, or teach you, then he has you on a very low priority in his world, and maybe take a relationship break.. And hope he loses power a few days so he notices you aren't around, otherwise he'll still be playing his damn xbox :\

[angelbabies]

i made a big mistake when i brought my bf an xbox last xmas, he never had time for me anymore!

a year later he has only just stopped playing it so much and we are getting on so much betta it took me telling him i was leaving b/c a want a partner and i felt like i was init alone!

i think you need to have a talk! people may laugh b/c they think that its a silly reason to leave but its horrid being so lonely!

good luck x

[Cootos]

Well honestly, maybe you need to get rid of his xbox without him knowing...what's more important you or a silly game?? I guess it depends on how often he plays it...but if it's something he does as soon as he gets home to the time he goes to bed and weekends all day I would defenitely be tossing it out the window!! I had a b/f that would litterally play his playstation day and night until he finished his 007 game...it was stupid, we actually had a child together and all he did was play video games and drink his 6 pack of caronas....I ended up leaving him in the end but that was only a small bit of the problem...point is I did everything!!!! Cooked dinner, cleaned, took care of baby...you name it!!! But looks like he needs some sort of wake up call before you walk out that door....I would give him an ultimatum......communication is the only way...best of luck!!!