where has barnbabe been

[bip]

I was jusr wondering where barnbabe been..Has anyone heard.........

[peekawho]

I would guess I must fall into the category of people who do not have good hearts and good intentions.

Best of luck to you and your part time job, and your apartment hunt.   It can take a while to get things together.  

Hey, is this the same doctor that you kind of thought had the hots for you, or you for him?  I forget which way it was.  

[hatrick03]

I don't understand how this is talking behind her back. This is a public board. She's welcome to view and respond. I have had a couple people here (not barn babe) be very rude to me when it was unwarranted. All I did was give an opinion that differed from the majority's. I was called a "dinosaur" because they thought my opinion on a subject was old-fashioned (chuckles), and they even dragged in other threads of mine to start some sort of debate, personally attacking me and exaggerating a bad situation I went through to make me into someone that I'm not - just so they could discount my opinion. It was pure silliness and out of line; I quickly saw it for what it was and left the board, dismayed. I'm not a regular here, but I've noticed that this board has changed somewhat from when I used to post. However, I've gotten mostly helpful and friendly responses in all the threads I've posted, and I wanted to say I appreicate those who are so kind and generous. I'm generally not a confrontational person, but just from reading a sampling of barn babe's postings, I can see that she's a disagreeable person. She's the only person that I've felt compelled to report to the moderators. I reported her, and at least some of the posts where she called people names (not just me) were deleted.

To barn babe and others who are obviously so interested in my personal life, I'll be happy to let you know that I've been busy working part-time at the local hospital, and I really like it thus far. My doctor suggested it, and helped get me the position (his office is in the hospital). I'm doing well, and can't wait to start working full-time in fall. I've also begun looking for apartments. The landlord of the apartments where I used to live let me know that the exact apartment that I used to live in may be up for rent very soon! Things could not be going better. :) I hope that everyone here can put the bitterness behind. I know some people were offended by my initial words on mommabean's thread, and though I do not see why, I apologize. I only lashed out when I felt I was unjustly attacked and misrepresented. I'm sorry I did. Hope this board can continue to be at least somewhat peaceful. It appears that most people here have good hearts and good intentions.

[Undo]

GOOD RIDENCE...

[pertykitty]

you are keeping it going yourselves :)  she could respond, she wont she still has questions to answer.

[April2]

Amen. I agree 100%. That's why I stepped back a long time ago. I didn't like where I saw this going. I'm sorry I even started to participate myself. I hate gossip. Would any of us like it if people were talking about us behind our backs? And what's worse is she can certainly see this! I actually admire her for not getting on here and responding in kind. I think if any of us have a problem with her or anyone else, we need to be straightforward and bring it up with that person. Don't you all agree? I always try to do that. If someone's offended me or hurt my feelings, etc., I tell the person. That way things don't build up and start getting ugly. Just sitting around complaining about her doesn't solve anything. I try to remember the old adage "Treat others as you would like to be treated".
I don't mind debating with people or calling them to the table if I feel that it's needed. But we really need to do this one on one with the person, not gang up on them and attack them. Everyone agree? Let's please all try to get along. This is a great site where we can encourage and help each other. Let's try and remember that. God bless.

[misscloey]

We need to end this now. I do not feel that it is right or respectful to discuss someone else without their knowledge. No matter what you all feel for her. If she were involved in this conversation then it would be different. How about talking about someone BEHIND their back for rude and abnoxious behavior? I'm outa here! I know you all don't mean it that way, but don't you think this is a little immature?

[PlateletGal]

This thread needs to end. This is just wrong.

[pertykitty]

id hardly call anything she said brilliant, id call it rude and immature. she could tell anyone anything that she felt was wrong with them, but could never answer questions regarding herself. so you felt the same in regards to god as she did, that was a plus for you.  but you know im sure you were soon to be made fun of or ridiculed same as the rest.  she wasnt as great as she made herself to be, i think she didnt want to face the fact she was called out to have a debate that was more than namecalling and she couldnt handle it.  she was a sad woman with lots of problems emotionally.  she admitted that herself.............

[mayflowers]

We need another virgin on this forum.  Those are fun.

[mayflowers]

BTW, great post!

[jambam]

Hey, I can handle an opinionated person at much as anyone.  As I, and many others, have said countless times, differing opinions and debates are fine. People DO respect her OPINONS.  I just happent to draw the "respect" line at personal attacks and insults.  Again, PERSONAL ATTACKS and INSULTS.  She can debate all she wants.  Disagree all she wants.  But when she starts calling people stupid, insults their intelligence, insults their upbringing, insults their education, insults their belief system as a personal weakness they must have, insults their mental health, etc. (all of which she has done) then all bets are off.

It's a fine line thinking people are upset at her opinions, when really, it's her behavior.  At least for me, anyway.

[jambam]

Hey mayflowers, we responded at the same time!  And I agree, time to move on.  I just wanted to make some clarifications on why she may have brought some negativity on herself.

On to new threads!

[mayflowers]

I don't think it's her opinions that anyone is offended by (I mean who cares anyway????) but it's the way she was so rude to everyone and the way she put people down for their opinions.   It was weird because she asked people to explain and they did, then she was rude and obnoxious.  (I thought she was funny to be honest with you.)  The thing is, if you're like that (obnoxious), you got to expect it back.  Sorry, that's just life.  Hey, I've gotten some rude comments to my rude comments.  You got to take it like a woman/man and move on.  Speaking of that, can't we move on from this subject?  I'm bored.

[misscloey]

Barn Babe is alive and well!! Much to your dismay Jam! You cannot handle an opinionated person that can debate any subject? Yes, she can be harsh! I have had many converstaions (arguments) with her on several issues and forums. Her views are definitely different than mine on MANY subjects, but isn't that OK? I do not post on here for everyone to agree with me, do you? I myself appreciate her opinion and views, and I also appreciate her ability to mean what she says and say what she means. Yes, she is blunt, why beat around the bush?  We may not agree alot, but I do respect her opinions. Free speach is one of our rights, is it not? Just because some of you don't like what she says, doesn't mean that she doesn't have the right to say it. I am not here to slam or defend any one of you, just trying to put it all into perspective !!      

[jambam]

koukla, I actually agree with everything you said.  I would never, ever, instigate an attack on anyone.  My calling her "whacked" was a minor reaction in comparison to the abuse she's dished out endlessly on this forum, often as the instigator herself.  I am a strong believer that everyone deserves respect up front...but at the same time I truly believe that respect CAN BE lost, which is something that happened in my opinion of her "online persona."

Just so you'll know, I wasn't 100% sure you were talking about her...it seemed like it but I didn't clarify that uncertainty, and for that I apologize.  I wish this board had an edit feature!

[PlateletGal]

I agree with everything you said, koukla29.

[koukla29]

Wow!  I was NOT defending BB.  I was asking a question to everyone.  It IS interesting, isn't it?  I find it extremely interesting that lively debate can to resort to being nasty to others.  I wasn't defending BB, that was asking everyone who feels a need to act that way, to take it down a notch.  What is the point of tearing people and making them afraid to speak out?  No matter what someone's opinion - even if it is extremely different from my own, as long as we can treat each other with respect, I can aknowledge a different perception and solution ro the same problem.  This is what I am saying.

I don't think BB is a whack job.  I personally don't know the woman, do you?  That is what I am talking about - calling people names and attacking the person whom you do not know.  It doesn't make anything better.  I think she and some others need to keep it from getting personal, hurtful, and stop the name calling.  There is no reason why we can't have adult conversations that respect a variety of opinions.  

[jambam]

That's an interesting comment, koukla, but I have to ask are you speaking for barnbabe or the victims of HER hatred and abuse?  Because quite frankly, it has seemed to me in many weeks of reading this board that pretty much everyone is respectful of opposing opinions and debates them WITHOUT resorting to the name calling, insults and attacks that seemed to pretty much only come from barn babe.  In fact, it was apparent that most of the time, SHE was the first to respond with anger and negativity at anything SHE didn't agree with, on a personal level rather than a respectful debate.  She even insulted someone who was actually ON HER SIDE.  She was out of control  She's a whack job.

"Why is it that there cannot be intelligent debate and respect for each opinion - regardless of the opinion?"

Again, a very interesting comment, and one that was often asked, word for words almost, of BARN BABE HERSELF.

No one hates her opinion, but I for one hate her behavior.  It is sickengly disrespectful and rude.  And she has no one to blame but herself.

[PlateletGal]

Your right. That really threw me off... I responded, but she/he didn't answer after that.

[mayflowers]

Do you really think that BB was respecting other people's opinions?  I can't quite figure out where you are coming from.  

[koukla29]

I know I would hate if people took such an interest in hating me just for having an opinion that was different from their own.  Why is it that there cannot be intelligent debate and respect for each opinion - regardless of the opinion?  

[koukla29]

I know I would hate if people took such an interest in hating me just for having an opinion that was different from their own.  Why is it that there cannot be intelligent debate and respect for each opinion - regardless of the opinion?  

[PlateletGal]

Speaking of which --- barn babe posted on the health insurance board yesterday.

[jambam]

I saw that!  I was baffled by that one too.  Near as I could tell, all you did was comment about breaking the "email address" rule, right?

But in barnbabe's case, she was being her usual rude, angry self.  She was angry that some posters were asking questions for other posters specifically.  Funny, I don't see it bothering her when people call for HER.  I couldn't believe it when I read that.  It was like a jealous tizzy fit.  Really, it NEVER gets her angry when someone asks for HER, but she can't handle it when someone else seems more popular (at least, that's how her rant seemed!)  I can't recall right now which of the countless boards it was so I can't point it out, but it's there!