womanizer

[pickel33]

can being a womanizer be helped?? can it be cured? is it an actual dis order? what causes it?

[teko]

I think it is caused by over inflated ego and underdeveloped ego as well depending on the gentlemens age maybe?,Old men do it because they get away with behaviors that they could not when young and the young simply dont care.  develops thru getting away with it without being called on the carpet for it, remains as long as their significant other tolerates it and Curable? Depends on if it is worth losing their significant other or not, (at least in their presence), some will do it when not around the wife or girlfriend only, others like the reaction of wife or girlfriend until it costs them something they are not willing to pay for. IMO, young or old it is unattractive. And why do they pick grocery stores and laundry mats to get their fix?

[specialmom]

Some are insecure but many are VERY secure in a frightening way.  Kind of like bullies.  

[rls27]

Most womanizers are insecure. They need constant reassurance by way of new conquests. They get bored with a woman once she's no longer a challenge, then it's on to the next woman. It's an ego boost as well as an appetite for variety. The only one who can cure it is the individual.

[RainLover71]

Womanizers never give up there flirtatious ways.They can,t help it,they have to flirt with every woman they see.Its in there blood and its a receipe for disaster relationship wise.My uncle was a womanizer.He had 6 children with 5 different women,how lovely.At the end of the day its your call.Can they be cured-Do you believe in miracles.I think ego causes it.All the best.

[specialmom]

Ha.  This is a funny post.  It sure feels like it must be some disorder when you've been involved with a womanizer, doesn't it?  

I don't know what exactly you are referring to.  It is not in the DSM V or anything.  But there are some that qualify as a sociopath and are womanizers.  But your every day run of the mill womanizer is just . . . a jerk.  (whew-----  that sounded opinionated.  Sorry.)  

I think that you have degrees to everything.  There are men that throughout their 20's and 30's date, sleep with, etc. many women and overlap them.  I think they do it because they can.  They don't want a commitment, they are able to have sex when they feel like it, it is a bit of a game and a challenge, it feeds their ego, etc.  Many men will grow out of this when they wish to settle down.  

Then you have the chronic detached sort that are players their whole lives.  These are those that marry and cheat with abandon as if they had no attachment to their wife at all.  This is different than the man who just cheats------------  we are talking the player here, right?  The guy that is NEVER faithful.  

Now you could find different reasons for the chronically detached person (and it is not just men) to be as they are.  Some do stem from childhood, fear of abandonment, etc. and yes, some may be like this due to a mental deficit.  

But people are all different and it is hard to put an absolute cause to why and what it will take to change them.  My best advice is not to enter into any relationship in which you want major change from the other person.  We can be responsible for being our best selves and we need to look for signs that the people we pick as partners also are being their best self.  That is our control over the situation.  Looking for signs and running for the hills if they seem like a womanizer when we first start dating them.  That gives us control over not having a womanizer in our lives.  Choose well--------- that is my motto!  good luck