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Brief Vaginal Penetration / Gonorrhea

Last week, my husband admitted to cheating on me... last Tuesday, he paid for oral sex from a prostitute. We've been married 8 years and have 4 children together. Needless to say, I am devastated. To add insult to injury, he quickly developed what appeared to be a UTI. He went to urgent care and tested positive for a UTI. He was also tested for STDs. He recieved a call today that he is also positive for gonorrhea. The issue I have now is that prior to him displaying symptoms, we very briefly engaged in intercourse. It was literally a matter of a few seconds, no thrusting, no ejaculation. I stopped it very quickly, given the circumstances, I was not comfortable with it. I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this question and I should err on the side of caution and be tested myself. I have no symptoms but I'm worried now. Any input on the likelihood that he passed it to me?
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I'm so sorry this is happening.

Chances aren't high if it was only a few seconds, but to err on the side of caution, you should test and be treated. Untreated gonorrhea can cause all kinds of complications, and most of the time, women don't have symptoms.

To ensure proper treatment, you should know that the current recommended treatment for gonorrhea is a shot of ceftriaxone AND 1g of oral azithromycin. You'll take the azithromycin all at once.

Something else to consider is COVID. If you are in a highly hit area, you might want to test for that, too.

I'm so sorry this is happening. We're here for any questions you may have.
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AuntieJessi - thank you for your feedback and understanding. Just an update: I never did have any symptoms though my husband did. I went to the doctor this week and was given a shot and oral antibiotics to err on the side of caution because I had been exposed. He did also test me and I received my results today that I WAS positive for gonorrhea. Literally from just a few seconds of penetration. Thankful that I chose to be treated "just in case" but appalled that my body was a host to this because of his infidelity.
I'm so glad you got tested and treated.

Try not to get too caught up in the stigma of having an STD. Remember that it's just a bacteria like any other bacteria, like strep throat or an ear infection. I absolutely understand that this is loaded with your husband's infidelity, but you aren't any different because you've had an STD than if you got strep throat from him because he kissed someone else, morally or whatnot. It changes nothing about you as a person.

If you and your husband are trying to work things out - and no judgement if you are, or aren't - you should refrain from sex for 7 days after you got the meds, and for 7 days after he did, whichever came later.

Don't hesitate to get counseling, separate from marital counseling if you and your husband are in therapy together. There's a lot to unpack here for you, and taking care of yourself comes first.

If you have any questions, we're here. I wish you the absolute best.
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