Can HPV be transmitted via pegging and/or shared adult toys?

[Duncan2021]

Can one who had been recently diagnosed with HPV pass it to other while using a strapon? Partner and her new bf recently diagnosed with it but everyone else has been cleared

[auntiejessi]

If the strap-on/toy was used and not cleaned, then immediately went to be used with someone else, maybe. If any amount of time had passed, probably not.

Keep in mind that the incubation period for HPV is at least a few months. This means that it's a few months, if not longer, before anyone gets symptoms after they've been infected.

How was everyone cleared?

Have you all been vaccinated against HPV? It would be a good idea to talk to your doctor(s) about it.

[Duncan2021]

We are in a bdsm poly relationship. GF and have not had sex in about a year. I have a female sub that I play with, GF recently got herself a BF. Her new BF 5 month is into relatioship discovers he has genital warts. GF gets tested; they find beginning of cervical cancer and treat it.
My sub gets tested and is diagnosed clean and I have zero indicators  (I know that doesnt mean I'm clear but between the sub being clean and I not having any signs, no sexual contact with the gf or other partner no testing available for males..)
All toys are covered with condoms which get changed between people.
Her BF is currently overseas for 9mo and we are trying to figure out ways for her and I to be intimate

[auntiejessi]

So, the likelihood is that they have different strains of HPV, at least those strains causing problems. The strains that cause genitals warts aren't typically the kind that cause cancerous changes.

You may have the strain your GF has already - that's the kind that gives no symptoms. She may have had that prior to the new BF, and the new BF likely had his strain prior to this relationship.

Condoms are great on sex toys, just make sure to change the condoms every single time. If you are using lube with the condoms, make sure it's not oil-based. (You may know this already - just making sure.)

Since there are 2 different strains here, you should talk to your doctor about vaccines. You don't mention your age, and don't need to, but after a certain age or having a number of sexual partners, doctors assume that you've already been exposed. Talk to your doctor to see if it's appropriate for you. Your sub, your gf and her bf should also talk to their doctors.

Your sub's test means she doesn't have active HPV right now. It doesn't mean she doesn't have it. If you are using condoms, it greatly reduces your chances, but doesn't eliminate it.

If you and your gf want to be intimate, you can do anything with protection (if she's healed from her procedures - her doctor would have given her a timeline to resume sexual activity), but I'd use condoms, to protect you and her if you have additional strains. There is a risk for oral HPV, but oral cancers are rare.

HPV is tricky, and it's almost inevitable. Experts say upwards of 90% of sexually active adults will get at least 1 strain in their lifetimes. It's going down in younger people who've been vaccinated, but not for those who haven't.

[Duncan2021]

I'm 43 btw. I am currently between dre at the moment as the last one I had acted like I was someone just speaking pain killers rather than actually suffering from a partially separated shoulder and now says it's been too long so the nerve damage is probably permanent.  My understanding is in general they wont give one the vaccine once they are over 26, on the assumption that one has already been exposed to it. Big part of my "issue" is that ok, primary partner has it, so far theres no sign I have it and the sub has been "cleared" (which as you said just means theres nothing active at this time so no actual answer if she has it or not. My concern would be engaging in sex with the primary and possibly contracting it (assuming I dont have it already, but given the amount of sexual contact weve had over the past several years...yet then considering the possible incubation period ...) then possibly giving it to any other partner I may have, primarily thinking about the sub..who as you said may or may not have it....
Sorry, I am concerned for the health of everyone involved here and afraid of passing an STI along to others and finding it frustrating as hell that there is no way to know if I have it unless I break out with something from now to say 10 years from now...and as it is transmitted through moist areas of skin, condoms arent near as effective...
Toying with seeking a counselor as well as regular dr at this point cause the uncertainty is driving me a bit nuts lol

Condoms are used on all toys and changed etween using on others (we go through boxes of them regularly lol; just another day in the bdsm realm lol).

[auntiejessi]

Yeah, you are probably too old for the vaccine, but if you go to an STD clinic and explain your relationship (and trust me, they've heard it before), they may give it to you.

You won't break out with something 10 years from now. HPV clears in the vast majority of people within 2 years. It's not a lifelong infection.

It's awesome that you are concerned for the health of everyone involved, but remember that everyone has entered into this arrangement willingly, aware of the risks. They all have the power to make informed their own health decisions, and they should be. You can decide your own boundaries with this, as well.

You only mention toys, but not other sexual activity. If you have sex with your sub, she likely has already been exposed if you have it. You also don't mention if your GF has had other partners in the year that you and she haven't been sexually active. If she has, it's possible you don't have it, and therefore, your sub doesn't.

If it's driving you a bit nuts, then yes, a counselor would be a good idea. There are many who are poly-friendly, and BDSM-friendly.