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Handjob with vaginal fluid and lubricant

I read some threads describing seemingly similar circumstances however I experience symptoms and am currently in full panic mode.

3.5 weeks ago I had protected sexual intercourse with a sex worker. I couldn't finish so I lay down on the bed and she removed the condom and finished me by hand. When we had intercourse I noticed that some vaginal fluid was building up at the base of my penis where the rim of the condom was. So obviously when she masturbated me she was mixing the fluids with lubricants. A few days later (3 or 4 days) I felt a slight burning at the very top of my penis and when lying down on my back or on the side it feels as if there's a droplet making its way through the urethra to the tip. However nothing ever came out. Still I decided to see an urologist. He made a swipe and checked for clap and Chlamydia. This was done exactly one week after the encounter. The results came back negative. Actually the doctor had trouble holding his laughs back when I told him my story. After he gave me the results the minimal burning sensation and feeling of droplets went away for 2 days. I was already relieved. But then they returned after day 3. in combination with minimal stinging in the groin area. I began to notice that after I masturbate even after a few hours have passed a clear liquid oozes out. Pretty much the same consistency than pre-cum. I never observed something like this before. Also it's getting almost impossible for me to get an erection recently. So I went to an other doctor. He repeated the test (this time urine and urethra swap) but as of now there's no result. I checked back with him and he said the lab is growing something in a petri dish and this takes time. It's been a week now btw. But he also said I'm in max anxiety mode because he thinks the risk of any std is very small. So today I took matters in my own hand and went to a private lab. The following tests will be performed:
HIV PCR
HBV PCR
HCV
Syphilis test
And a multiplex PCR to check for other stuff than clap and Chlamydia. Mycoplasms for example. I decided not to do check for clap and Chlamydia again.
Interestingly ... Or I should say unfortunately the doc at the laboratory said all of the above except for HCV are possible to contract by this sexual practice. Needless to say my anxiety kicked in for real this time and on the way home I hand a minor accident with my car.
Now as I said the sexual encounter has been 3.5weeks in the past. I haven't slept for more than 3h/night since then. I experience sweating at night when I actually manage to fall asleep, fatigue in legs and arms for the past 2 days, nightmares, discharge after masturbation, can't get it up and my semen also looks more transparent than ever before. I'm restless and walk through the city a lot sometimes up to 10km.
I lost some weight (hopefully because of that) so my coworkers already asked me if I started to work out.

So after this wall of text my question is: What's up with me? Am I making these symptoms up or is there something seriously wrong with me in a non-psychological way? If I do research on the web except for the post-cum leak and symptoms of my penis everything fits into anxiety symptoms but also into HIV onset symptoms. I will get the results Tuesday at the latest, probably already Monday afternoon. I don't know how to make it until then. I hope you can give me some medical insights that will hopefully ease my suffering until then. I'm literally going crazy....

Thank you.
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207091 tn?1337709493
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You had protected sex. That means you aren't at risk for any of these things you keep testing for. You have no reason to test again.

I understand that when she finished you with a hand job, some of her vaginal fluids may have been involved, but that's not a risk, either. I'm including some links at the end that will help explain that.

Please do not self-medicate. Taking antibiotics you don't need causes resistance to those.

You've driven 14 hours, spent 800+ euros, developed an anxiety disorder, and you had no risk. Make sure you are drinking plenty of water, lay off any alcohol and caffeine, skip the fruit juices acidic fruits like oranges (all of these can be irritating to the bladder and urethra), and give it a week. See how you're feeling.

Here are some posts from our experts (when we had them) that may help -

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Nervous-about-mutual-masturbation/show/2183476

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Mutual-Masturbation-STD/show/1968429

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/mutual-masturbation-sti/show/1858544

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Understanding-the-risks-of-mutual-fingering/show/1516796

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.
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207091 tn?1337709493
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So first, when you have vaginal intercourse with someone, even with a condom, you will be exposed to her vaginal fluids. The condom doesn't protect all the skin.

I don't know who told you that at the lab, but they are wrong, and are just as alarmist as you're being. Most people who work at labs aren't doctors, either.

Hand jobs, even with an exchange of fluids, are just not a risk for anything. By the time she took the condom off, got you situated on the bed, etc., everything had pretty much died if she had anything.

Also, remember that sex workers wear condoms for their protection, not so much yours. Their jobs depend on not getting STDs. They are, by necessity, more concerned with not getting something from you, than they are worried about giving you something. This means most don't actually have an STD.

You weren't at risk for HIV (so your symptoms can not be HIV), any of the hepatitis viruses, (and depending on your age, you probably have been vaccinated for hep B), and your tests have proven that you don't have gonorrhea (the clap) or chlamydia.

Also, most people don't have HIV.

Semen leakage after ejaculation usually isn't cause for alarm. It can indicated an infection, or a problem with your prostate, but most of the time, it's normal. If you have a prostate problem, that could be affecting your erections and your semen. Your anxiety could be as well, but only an exam will determine this. If you do have a prostate problem, it's not related to this.

I think your anxiety is taking over. You are having nightmares and walking the streets, and not sleeping, etc. It's important that you talk to your doctor about this.

I suspect that your anxiety is not new. Have you heard of catastrophizing? https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/dec/29/stop-catastrophising-expert-guide-psychologist

Talk to your doctor about your current symptoms, and your anxiety. You deserve relief from your anxiety. There are great therapies and medications available.



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First of all thank you so much for replying so fast. You don't know how much this means to me.

"I don't know who told you that at the lab, but they are wrong, and are just as alarmist as you're being. Most people who work at labs aren't doctors, either."
Well at least his name tag said Dr. med.

"I think your anxiety is taking over. You are having nightmares and walking the streets, and not sleeping, etc. It's important that you talk to your doctor about this."
I already told him last week. He just said that I'm worrying too much and should calm down. Easier said than done especially if a lab test takes over a week. I mean I am aware that growing stuff in a petri dish takes time, after all you can't speed up bacterial growth but the way he said: they are still growing.. implies something is growing. Needless to say this phone call didn't help me to calm down.

You're only partially right about the anxiety thing though. Until 3.5weeks ago I was a very easy-going person. Not too many troubles on my mind. Today this is different. I had an infection of my bladder around 3 years ago. Not sexually related, I'm almost ashamed to say this but I rarely had sex until end of my 20s. Maybe 3 times? Now I'm getting serious with a girl and the only thing that came to my retarded mind was: maybe I should get a 'second opinion' while I still can. But let's not go into this. No matter what I say it will always sound like self-pity, which it actually is not what I'm intending. What I learned from this horrible night is that you can't and shouldn't try to make up for something you think you missed out in your teens when you're actually an adult. Anyways, compared to the bladder infection the symptoms today are very weak.
I read the article you linked. It's interesting I will definitely try the advice! Hopefully I can find a way back to myself a month ago.

"Semen leakage after ejaculation usually isn't cause for alarm. It can indicated an infection, or a problem with your prostate, but most of the time, it's normal. If you have a prostate problem, that could be affecting your erections and your semen. Your anxiety could be as well, but only an exam will determine this. If you do have a prostate problem, it's not related to this."
I think just because I never observed this before and occurs at a very odd time now is what's alarming me. I'm 32 I think I would have observed this before at least once. I will wait for the results next week and ask my doctor about his opinion. The urologist I visited at first told me "it could be some gland giving off some liquid, nothing to worry."

I really hope the world will not end for me in the first two days of next week. In any case thanks again that you took the time to reply to my post. I will update once I know more. I wish you a nice weekend.
So first - let me address your word choices. The words we use are important. I don't always point it out, but I think it's important for you.

"What I learned from this horrible night..."
"I really hope the world will not end for me..."
"...the only thing that came to my retarded mind..."

This is catastrophic thinking, and you are so hard on yourself.

First, the night wasn't horrible. You had sex with a sex worker, something millions do every day around the world. You used protection, which is awesome.

The world will not end. No matter what happens from this, the world will not end. No one is dying, no one is losing a home, or getting disfigured, or paralyzed, or anything like that. Maybe your relationship will be over if you've put that person at risk for something, but even then, that doesn't mean your world will end. You'll learn a hard lesson, and do better in your next relationship.

Your brain is not "retarded". At best, you had poor judgement and made a mistake. (Also, the word "retarded" is offensive to many with special needs, or who love someone with special needs.) Don't be so hard on yourself. Learn from this. Those of us who had more experience during our younger years can tell you that it's not always what it seems like from the outside, and there are people who regret their choices who sit in envy of you. Grass is always greener and all that happy stuff.

I don't have anything else to add regarding the STD risk. Even if the person at the lab was a doctor, they were wrong. I expect your results will be negative, but definitely let me know.

Go have a good weekend. Don't get online, don't research STDs. Go do things that you find fun and relaxing. I'm not on during the weekends, either.
Hello auntiejessie. First of all apologies for my choice of words. I didn't want to offend anybody.
It's been a rough weekend for me. I had a massive panic attack in the night of Saturday to Sunday and felt miserable in general all the time.
Today I got some of the test results.
Heb B C and Syphilis came back negative. HIV and the multiplex PCR are still missing.

Went to my doctor today and he informed me of the findings in my urine and last urethra swap. Apparently they didn't find either Chlamydia and Gonorrhea. He said there was some very common bacteria growing on the Petri dish but they are not sure whether it was a contamination of the jar or if they found it in my urine. I forgot the name of it but he said it's an aneorobic bacteria. He said he will consult someone at an university hospital that specializes in microbiology to clarify if this could cause trouble or if it's false alarm. If necessary he will prescribe some antibiotic and see if anything improves.

I will talk to my urologist in a few minutes about the prostate problems to see if he's got any idea.
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If the multiplex PCR doesn't find anything (mycoplasms basically) either then I guess I must be imagining things. However I can hardly believe that one can imagine massive leaking after orgasm and discoloration of the semen. Maybe at one point you really have to trust the professionals and ignore what you actually feel and see. As long as I don't become sterile or infect my girl I can deal with the symptoms I guess.

I only wish I already had the HIV test result but I trust in your first reply. This gives me strength and hopefully it will be available and negative tomorrow at this time.
So with the mycoplasma - if you test positive for it, make sure it's mycoplasma genitalium, not mycoplasma hominis. MHominis lives in your urinary tract, and is normal. If they find that, that's not the cause of anything.

https://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/mycoplasma-infections#1

M Genitalium does cause infections, and it's a "newer" STD -

https://www.self.com/story/mycoplasma-genitalium

https://academic.oup.com/jid/article/216/suppl_2/S396/4040968

If you have this, I'd be very surprised if it came from this encounter.

I know you didn't mean to offend anyone, and my main point was to show you how your words are affecting YOU, not the rest of us. You're so hard on yourself. I have a feeling that if I was your friend "in real life", and telling you the same exact story, you'd be a lot kinder to me than you are to yourself. Try to talk to yourself as you would to me.

Let me know what the urologist says, and what your other doctor says.

Hang in there, and be kind to yourself.
Hello auntiejessie,

Sorry for the late update. I forgot my password and couldn't have it restored for some reason.
So here's what happened since my last post:

On last week Wednesday I drove to an other laboratory to have a Gonorrhea and chlamydia PCR done. Took me 14h to drive there by car. Since I was not sure if I didn't give them too much urine I became somewhat paranoid again and had me rechecked at yet an other lab on last week Friday. In the meantime both results came back negative.
Yesterday I also got the result of the multiplex PCR (urethra swab before first urine) which was conducted 3.5weeks after the contact I described in my first post. This was also negative. Trich, Mycoplasma genitalium, mycoplasma h., Ureaplasma v. And another ureaplasma.
Which is great news I guess. My question for you is the following:
I will meet my girlfriend in a bit over a week. Since medicine and science says everything is negative it should be in theory safe to have unprotected sex with her. Is this correct? I mean despite the fact that I can sometimes still feel some very mild burning in the tip of my penis. No problems urinating or holding my urine in and I also haven't seen the clear discharge for 2 or 3 days. Also last night I got an errection out of nowhere when I slept. Which is also a very good sign in my opinion.
Is there a realistic chance all those pcrs gave a false negative? Is it possible that I have a mild inflammation of my urethra from some other non-std bacteria or do I have to admit to myself that everything was caused by my paranoia? For now my decision is to have safer sex during the weeks when I will see her and probably repeat the tests when I get back home. The plan is that she will move in with me in late March early April. So far I've spent over 800euro for tests. Is a recheck necessary or can I trust my results and move on...and if the mild symptoms won't go away I could still selfmedicate some doxycycline which I acquired semi-legally as a emergency solution.

Please let me know your ideas or view on this situation.
Thank you again
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