NGU - Detection

[grabbe_r]

I messed up badly several months ago and contracted NGU. I was treated at a clinic, but must of first passed it on to my wife, who passed it back on to me. Symptoms are not pleasant but I have been putting up with them pending a miracle. Coming clean would be throwng my life away. My wife has no symptoms.

I now have major surgery coming up in a few weeks and the pre-op tests indicated white blood cells in the urine. A culture has been ordered and pending the results, I will be put on a heavy dose of antibiotics between now and the surgery. I have a history of prostatitis so this is the assumption. Obviously, I need to get my wife tested and treated.

I understand from this forum that the causes for some cases of NGU are inocent ie) natural bacteria in the mouth, and that other causes remain unidentified.  My questions are:

1) Will the pending culture results show NGU - leading my urologist to independently suggest my wife be tested? The hopeful result being that she would be tested, treated and the whole thing would remain a mystery.

2) If I come clean to my urologist - is there a way for him to suggest tests and treatment for my wife without her knowing the history? I'm not sure what medical ethics require of him in this case.

3) Any other suggestions on how to resolve this without throughing my life down the toilet.

Thank you for your understanding and advice

[auntiejessi]

Yes, you can get it from normal mouth bacteria, and then you could spread that bacteria back and forth genitally.

Your NGU might just be from your prostatitis, though.  You should follow up with your doctor.

Aj

[grabbe_r]

Thanks for your comments. I have heard that NGU can be contracted through oral sex - but am not sure if this originates from normal mouth bacteria or from having previously performed oral sex on an infected partner. I am also not sure if NGU contracted from normal mouth bacteria can be spread back to the infecting partner through intercourse and start a back and forth syndrom involvng only two people.  

Do you have any additional insights into this. They would be greatly appreciated.

[auntiejessi]

How about that you are trying to get rid of whatever it is, and you all might just be passing something back and forth.  That's basically a true statement, right?

The timing does suggest it was from the other encounter, but if you had contact with your wife at that time, you truly don't know where its from.

Aj

[grabbe_r]

I am fairly certain I started the exchange based on the timing of my mess-up, typical incubation periods for NGU, and the start of my symptoms. At the start of my symptoms I was tested postitive for NGU at a clinic and treated. The symptoms subsided After treatment, I had sex with my wife, and after the same incubation period, the symptoms returned.

What I really need to accomplish is to get my wife tested and treated without revealing the history and am struggling to come up with a way to do this.

[auntiejessi]

How do you know that your wife isn't giving you NGU via oral sex?  If she gives you oral sex, she could be sharing a normal mouth bacteria that you could also give to her genitally.  She should be treated for that.

Also, your white blood cells could strictly be related to your prostatitis, and not have anything to do with sex.

In any case, your doctor can not talk to your wife without your knowledge.  And it would be a good idea for her to get treated on the off chance that you are passing some bacteria back and forth.

Aj