Possible STD Symptoms; Could Use Some Help Sorting Out Possibilities

[RashSufferer]

Hi, I am in a long-term relationship with a woman but recently had two indiscretions with an old girlfriend, which I'll describe in more detail below.

This opens me to the "you're anxious and guilt-ridden" suggestion so common here, and I acknowledge that.

Anyway, 15 days and again 13 days ago, I reunited with an old girlfriend (herself married).

We did not have oral sex, did not have intercourse, and our genitals did not touch.

We did however get naked and laid together. I fingered her vagina, she rubbed her hand on my penis, and she rubbed her very wet vagina on the front of my thigh. So, there are some changes of transmission/infection here.

Fewer than 12 days after the initial contact, I began feeling a rash on the part of my thigh behind my scrotum where the leg meets the buttock. I've also felt "weird" and/or itchy around my anus and perhaps even at the top of my butt crack just before my back.

It's been hard to see symptoms, though. Maybe at times I look red in some areas. Maybe there are some small bumps on my thigh. I've seen no big open wounds, no pus, had had no pain associated with urination, and have had no discharge.

I got worried and contacted the old girlfriend. It turns out she had actually cheated on her husband back in January, and that included full intercourse. As a prelude, because that was apparently planned (mine was not), she had told the other guy he had to get an STD check first. He apparently did that, and was negative on everything he was tested for, but apparently didn't get tested for herpes.

I guess she got nervous after that event with the other guy and 2-3 weeks after their sex, she went to her doctor and got tested for everything, including herpes. She was negative for everything.

I found this comforting, or at least my anxiety went into an ebb-and-flow mode.

Meanwhile, assuming I had done nothing to get a disease, I DID have sex with my own wife.

I had noticed her itching the spot where her butt touches her back recently, and told she said it had been itchy and and showed me she had some form of rash there (it looked different than what I have, if I have anything).

So, what diseases might I have? Especially given the experience itself (no oral, no intercourse, no genital touching) and the time frame--I'm only 15 days from the initial contact and 13 days from the second, and I've been feeling the itch since maybe 5 days ago, so I would have started feeling things with 10 days or maybe even 8-9?

I appreciate any input here.

[RashSufferer]

Fair enough.

I don't see your second answer, but I guess you're saying you answered it implicitly. And that answers my question, confirming you had read and understood the details of the exposure and felt there was no risk.

Thanks, Vance. I am sure the anxiety issues can get tiresome. Your work and information and patience are appreciated, though. You've made me feel much better. Have a great day.

[Vance2335]

Not goign to answer that for a 3rd time.

[RashSufferer]

Thanks, Vance.

Yeah, scabies can present differently, but I don't look like most of the pics and I don't have INTENSE itching.

You're sticking with no STD risk, I assume?

[Vance2335]

My answer is not going to change on STD risk.

Scabies...doubt it, but you can check out the typical rash symptoms.

[RashSufferer]

Vance, thanks for getting back.

Wow, really? No STD risk? If so, that's great, and a great relief.

But, just to check, there's no STD risk from my fingering her vagina and no risk from her rubbing her very wet vagina against the front of my thigh?

Also, what do you think of scabies? Likely or no? I know that because my symptoms presented within 8-9 days or earlier, I am ahead of the 2-6 weeks; I know it is more likely transmitted when sleeping overnight than during two 1-2 sessions, and I know I haven't had an intense itching (though my wife has), and I know other woman reports no symptoms whatsoever.

So what do you think of those two questions?

Thanks again-much appreciated!

[Vance2335]

You had no STD risk. If concerned about the rash/itch see a Dr.

[RashSufferer]

I guess I should add:

I'm male

The woman I was with says she has had no symptoms and is convinced she has nothing. She had a test 2-3 weeks after being with this other guy because of guilt and anxiety, not because she felt symptoms.

I recognize that the 2-3 window between her January discretion and her own anxiety-induced testing isn't ideal for every STD, though it probably gives a good chance of catching gonorhea and chlamydia and maybe some others.

I'm assuming that the other guy getting tested and coming back negative is ALSO a good sign, although I'm confused because he didn't get a herpes test, saying "herpes was a blood test unless you have a symptom," which I'm sure is true, but isn't syphilis also a blood test?

I know she's got a husband, and no doubt also was with him, but I'm assuming they didn't have an STD if she tested negative.

The area where she was rubbing her vagina on the front of my thigh was a good deal away--several inches--from the the area on the back of my thigh, behind my scrotum, where I am experiencing symptoms if it's correct to say that I am.