Risk of a STD

[Mickey88888]

Hi there,

I would really appreciate some advice on this matter. I recently visited a massage parlour, and had unprotected oral sex. She subsequently sat on top of my penis (no insertion) to put a condom on me, and I could feel wetness from her vagina on the tip and around my penis. During the process of intercourse (with protection), the condom did not appear to be working very well, so we removed it, and she again sat on top of me, and proceeded to put another condom on me. Evidently, some of the vaginal secretions may have stuck to the condom. Having fitted the second condom, we carried on having sexual intercourse, and I finally ejaculated into the condom. She subsequently used a tissue to wipe away the semen and vaginal secretions around the tip of my penis after ejaculation and removal of condom. Throughout this whole experience, she continually sat and lay on top of me, whereupon her vaginal secretions could clearly be felt around the tip of my penis (although there was no insertion as such). I have found what appears to be a small red sore patch under my foreskin, and am very concerned as to the risk of a STD from the vaginal secretions and activities involved in this matter. Please can you advise as to my risk and whether it is advisable for me to get tested. Many thanks.  

[gracefromHHP]

If you continue to engage in these sorts of encounters, in the future ask them to put the condom on with their hand so that you can avoid the contact it sounds like you had unprotected.  If they sit further down on your legs and not directly on your genitals, the skin on the thighs is thicker and much lower risk.  

Can you see herpes lesions on someone? Well to be honest, you probably won't - especially in a situation like this since I'm assuming lighting was low and your mind really wasn't thinking professional gyn exam at the time ;)  That said, hopefully it's a reputable establishment you went to and their employees get screened regularly for std's and treat any they have. Anyone who is diagnosed with genital herpes should be on daily suppressive therapy to reduce the risks of transmission to their clients.

Overall this was low risk but not low risk is the whole point I was trying to make in my 1st reply.

grace

[Vance2335]

Yeah you would be able to see or at least feel bumps with your hand. I would say the risk is low.

[Mickey88888]

Thanks for the responses. Are outbreaks always visible, or can they sometimes be unnoticed. I did not notice anything in particular that resembled the symptoms for herpes/HPV. From that point of view, would it suggest that the risk is low from this incident?

[Vance2335]

There are no stats to give you, just that the risk is lower for unprotected oral then unprotected vaginal and unprotected anal sex.
HPV and herpes if the person had an outbreak then the risk increases, without an outbreak then you don't have a huge concern.

[Mickey88888]

Thanks for the response. I actually already had the sore patch, but was wondering whether this would increase the risk of a STD. I've been informed already that I am in no risk of HIV. In terms of HPV and herpes, would someone be able to let me know as to the risks and statistic of possibility involved from this incident. Many thanks.

[gracefromHHP]

the best thing to do is to go and be seen. this could be a std, it could be fungal or it could just be irritation.  the way she put the condom on you is a risk for hpv and herpes too.  unprotected oral is also a risk though smaller than the risk from unprotected genital sex.

grace