You will have to post in the Herpes and HPV forum, they are best suited to answer those questions.
ok will do - but can you pls answer with reference to other STDs (not Herpes and Genital Warts)
1. No real risk
You're getting too worked up over this.
First of all, oral sex is generally low risk. Not risk free, but low enough of a risk that you don't need to lose sleep over it. This is why most physicians don't even bother recommending condoms for oral sex.
There are two types of herpes viruses one and two. One appears on your lips, two appears on your genitals. If you've ever had a cold sore on your lip, you already have herpes one. You don't catch herpes two through oral sex. You could catch it through unprotected vaginal or anal sex, so use a condom.
As for genital warts, you're almost certainly going to get exposed to them if you have sex. They're actually pretty common, and are usually asymptomatic (meaning you don't notice them and they go away on their own). If you're having sex with people, you can expect to be exposed to genital warts at some point in your life. Not really something you should worry about, since there's not much you can do about them anyway.
Basic rule of thumb: oral sex is generally pretty safe. Use a condom for vaginal or anal sex. If you show symptoms of an STI (discharge or burning), see your doctor. Otherwise, get tested as part of your annual physical. Go have some fun and not get so worked up over this.
1. Yep, condoms virtually eliminate the risk for the other big ones (chlamydia, gonorrhea, etc.) but where these two are acquired through skin-to-skin contact it is still possible to acquire them while using a condom. However, a condom greatly reduces this risk. I can't remember the exact numbers, but I believe a condom reduces HSV transmission by 65% for female to male and 95% for male to female. With an already low transmission rate while the virus is dormant (~10% per annum, which works out to roughly 1/5000 encounters), these are pretty good odds.
2. If one partner has cold sores, the transmission rate of HSV-1 is high from kissing. However, HSV-1 is NOT HSV-2 (genital herpes). In fact, most people already have HSV-1 from a childhood infection. It is possible to obtain a genital HSV-1 infection from oral sex while someone is having an oral outbreak, but this is not common. Otherwise, if no sores are present, not kissing someone because they have HSV-1 is pretty ridiculous. I once heard a doctor say that disclosing HSV-1 before kissing is like disclosing that you coughed a couple of days ago.
3. Yes and No; Herpes can present itself all over the body (i.e. herpetic whitlow, herpes zoster, etc.) but if there are no lesions, contact outside the genital area is completely safe even if they carry the virus. These other forms of herpes are also VERY uncommon and shouldn't be a cause for worry in general to the best of my knowledge (not a doctor). But to answer your question, yes it is possible for herpes to exist outside of the oral and genital region. I know someone personally who has had HSV-1 manifest around their eyes on one occasion. It was easily treated and has not reoccurred.
4. In theory yes, but realistically no. Extremely low risk. Almost zero.
In general, I would advise you not to worry too much as long as you use a condom for any vaginal/anal sex. Protection is still acceptable and perfectly okay for oral too, but if you opt not to use it the odds are in your favor. If you have any pronounced symptoms, go see a doc but otherwise don't worry so much. I spent months worrying (hence why I know all this nonsense) over a protected encounter and every little symptom I experienced ended up being nothing, just my brain freaking out. I know it can be tough!
wow I just wrote a novel and then realized this is a 4 year old post. Hope it helps someone lol