STD?

[Rcj71486]

Back in March I had very brief unprotected oral and vaginal sex lasting no more than a minute between them both. The next day another unprotected vaginal sex encounter lasting maybe 2 minutes.  10-11 weeks later had a burning during morning urination just the one time. I got really worried and ask the woman if she had been experiencing anything.  Said she had not and had just recently been tested and all was good. That eased my mind some but still got tested about 10 -12 days after the burning. The day of testing I started having an irritation at top of penis. Tests came back negative for chlamydia gonorrhea and trich. I felt better after results and started taking some leftover amoxicillin that my 12 year old had taken a couple of when he was sick a few weeks earlier thinking if I had some other infection it would go away. Before the tests I was having a lot of anxiety and worry. Few days later symptoms started to ease but still didn’t feel right. My regular partner started complaining of vaginal itching and irritation which made me start to worry and stress even more.  I went to urologist about a month later and he did a urinalysis and said it looked good. Said I didn’t have a std and to quit worrying about it. I felt pretty good about that but still couldn’t get past the fact that my partner was having some issues and thought maybe the anoxicillin I had take. A month or so earlier cleared anything I had up and that’s why my urine was clean even though my symptoms never fully went away. Since then I have a feeling of urine stuck in my urethra after urination and sometimes underwear will be wet with urine if I dont milk it all out. The urthral opening is somewhat red and has lips that I don’t think I’ve ever noticed before. I dont know if my testicles were swollen or just my imagination but they didn’t hurt if they were. I would be fine if my partner wasn’t having her issues but I just can’t get over that I don't have something. Thanks

[Sillymistake87]

My answer is similar to that of AJ.

In your post you said your symptoms started  10-11 weeks after the last encounter and then you got tested? This is loads of time so its safe to say the tests you did were conclusive so the already slim risks are now reduced to almost zero.

Also AJ mentioned prostatitis. Your symptoms (with the negative tests) sound more like that. I also suffer from this and it does cause penile discharge during bowel movements.

[Rcj71486]

Thanks. I feel pretty confident in my test results but just thought my partners issues were just too coincidental and maybe I had something I wasn’t tested for.

[Sillymistake87]

My answer is similar to that of AJ.

In your post you said your symptoms started  10-11 weeks after the last encounter and then you got tested? This is loads of time so its safe to say the tests you did were conclusive so the already slim risks are now reduced to almost zero.

Also AJ mentioned prostatitis. Your symptoms (with the negative tests) sound more like that. I also suffer from this and it does cause penile discharge during bowel movements.

[auntiejessi]

Has your partner seen her doctor? She could just have a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Amox wouldn't cure any STDs, and even if it did, and you'd infected your partner, she would have re-infected you. You could just go test now and find out, and put it to rest.

That said, any risk for such a brief time is minimal. Really, just go test. Go to Planned Parenthood or an STD clinic, self pay, and get tested so you can let it go.

Remember that guilt doesn't equal risk. Get counseling if you have to so you can let this go. Tell your partner to go to the doctor because you're concerned for her health and letting things go untreated can cause serious complications (this is true) and find out that she has yeast, BV, dermatitis or something, and let this go.  

[auntiejessi]

Oh and you do have some symptoms of prostatitis. You should follow up with your urologist. It would be totally separate from any encounter you've had.

[Rcj71486]

Thanks for your response. She hasn’t been to doctor she thinks it’s candida glabrata she’s had it before but she didn’t have any symptoms the first time she had that. I had naat tests for chlamydia gonorrhea and trich and they were negative. Speaking of prostatitis I have noticed some discharge with bowel movements the last couple of weeks but I could have always had that but since all this has started I’ve been super obsessed with anything going on down there. One question I did have also were the symptoms starting 10-11 weeks after the encounter is that really to long or can it take that long?thanks

[auntiejessi]

The only way she can know what it is is to go see her doctor. It may well be candida, which is yeast, but yeast and BV have very similar symptoms.

You say you "could have always" had discharge with bowel movements - sure, you might have, and that's not uncommon, but have you always had it? It's worth getting it all checked out. Even without that symptom, you have enough other symptoms that warrant a check for prostatitis.

It can take that long to get symptoms, but it wouldn't be at all typical. If men get symptoms of an STD, they do so within the first week. It would be really unusual to get symptoms after 30 days, if you're going to get symptoms. About 10-15% of men never get symptoms of gonorrhea and chlamydia.

You don't need to be obsessed - if you get symptoms, you'll notice. You won't have to hunt them down or use a magnifier.

[Rcj71486]

Thanks again for your help!

[auntiejessi]

You're welcome. :)

[Rcj71486]

Sorry to have another question but there was one I forgot to ask. I wasn’t tested for mycoplasma genitalium but would that have showed sign of infection in the urinalysis?

[auntiejessi]

It probably would have, or you'd be having symptoms by now. MGen isn't transmitted orally.

Again, the chances that you'd get something from such brief encounters is extremely low. If you can't let this go, please get some counseling.