Unexplained prostatitis

[Hooper555]

Back in late 2015 I had unprotected oral sex with a woman (blow job).  Didn't notice anything unusual after.  Then in 2018 i noticed blood in my semen andI was diagnosed with prostatitis.  Took cipro and it resolved.  Doctor said I couldn't have had an std that long without symptoms or infecting my wife.  Took 10 panel std test after and all clear.  But how did I get prostatitis?  Can't get over it.

[auntiejessi]

You could have had it caused by a UTI -

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15319-prostatitis

https://www.healthline.com/health/prostatitis-bacterial-acute

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/prostatitis/symptoms-causes/syc-20355766

It's quite common for it to be caused by a UTI, and the cipro would have cured that. It wouldn't have cured it if it was caused by an STD.  You can let go of it now.

[Hooper555]

Thank you.

[Hooper555]

Jessi - having a hard time letting go of it.  They say that STDs sometimes don't have any symptoms at all.  What if my doctor was wrong?  What if I passed something to my wife before I realized something was wrong and saw my doctor, and only tested negative after the cipro?  My wife is battling issues now - can STDs cause that?  The doctor tested her for syphilis and she was negative.  I'm just broken up about this, but I don't want to say anything if I don't have to - could blow up my family.  I feel like a total piece of crap.

[grobick2000]

Greetings.
You see, there is realistically no way to tell what exactly happened in 2015 and what happened with your prostate in 2018. Your mind is driven by guilt and tends to connect unconnected things.
No for some facts
1. Only a slim minority of prostatitis cases are caused by a STI. Vast majority has no connection with sex life whatsoever, it is most often caused by bacteria that normally lives in your body.
2. Some STIs have no symptoms, but that happens much less often than symptomatic infection.
3. Your symptomatic prostatitis is three years away from your possible exposure. Three years of asymptomatic NGU that lead to a prostatitis? Good for a medical drama, but too unrealistic.
4. The fact that you're now connecting your wife's  infection to something that happened in 2015 shows that your guilt is out of control.
We strongly recommend you seek counseling; it is not STI that is the problem that makes you feel like crap.

[auntiejessi]

If it helps, I absolutely agree with all of this.

This is guilt speaking, not science. Guilt doesn't equal risk, nor does it supercede science and fact.

I hope you get counseling. It can really help.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

Your questions about your event have been fully answered.  Our members are not able to speculate on the cause of your wife's joint swelling. If your wife is having medical issues, she should continue to work with her doctor to find the cause.

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