clear discharge

[itchy_and_scared]

I am a 40 year old hetero male.  I had 60 seconds of unprotected sex outside my marriage about a month ago. Within 12 hours of this bit of idiocy I began feeling the need to pee frequently and my urethra was itchy.  I went to my general practitioner the following day and described my symptoms. I was tested for a "urinary tract infection" and given 3 days worth of amoxycillin.  The test came back negative and within a day or so my itching and peeing went away.  The woman involved assured me that she has no STDs and has been monogamous with her spouse for 4 years.  I am not sure I believe her.

But, assuming that everything was OK, my wife an I resumed having sex the following weekend (1 week after the 'event'). Two weeks after the event (roughly 9 days after my wife and I had sex), my wife had her period a bit early and for longer than usual.  Last week (3 weeks post event) my itching / need to pee has returned.  I am now seeing a very tiny amount of clear discharge from my urethra and am patently terrified.  

I live in a state where anonymous testing is virtually impossible and having to tell my wife will be the end of my marriage.  So, I need to know a few things - What are the chances that I have gonorrhea?  What are the chances that I have given it to my wife? Is there any other explanation?

Thanks

[itchy_and_scared]

anyone else got any ideas?

[itchy_and_scared]

Thanks,Vance

[Vance2335]

60 seconds would be very low chance to get a STD, but with your symptoms now I would advise on testing for gonorrhea and chlymida. Now it doesn't sound like either of those due to timing of symptoms it could be.

Chances would be 50/50 of you giving it to your wife if you had a STD.

So follow up wit your Dr, tel of symptoms and of past situation and let Dr do what he/she thinks is best.

[itchy_and_scared]

Help!!!!!!