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herpes lesion

A couple of days ago I posted a question about "tingling" sensations as it relates to genital herpes symptoms.  Thanks for the many responses.

Since then I've experienced a material change in my previous symptoms.  On the 23rd day after my encounter (unprotected vaginal sex with a random 22-year old female with obvious promiscuous tendancies), I noticed a single, small (half the size of an eraser on a pencil) pimple-like bump on the shaft of my penis.  It wasn't preceded by a red bump or iritated skin (at least that i had noticed), nor did it resemble any blister that i have ever seen.  It was more like a fleshy pimple with a white-head.  It "popped" pretty much as soon as I noticed it with no effort of mine.  It left a little red spot in its place but by the following day it was hard to tell even where it had been.  No open sore, no crusting.  That was it.

As a side note, the tingling in my genital region and legs has persisted.  I've also experienced a little burning in my butox region.

Ever since the incident I had been watching my genitals like a hawk.  This "pimple" must have appeard, popped, and gone away completely in 24 to 36 hours.  Does this sound like genital herpes to anyone?  Can a sore appear and dissappear that quickly?  Thanks again for your input.
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This doesn't sound like herpes. Herpes lesions don't generally disappear completely after 24-36 hours but stick around a bit longer and have characteristics that you haven't described here as occurring. Also, you said you only had one encounter - that is low risk for contracting any STD. It could happen, but your risk was low, especially if you don't even know your partner's herpes/STD status in general.

Sooner or later I'm going to get thrown off this board for continuing to raise this issue, but does your obviously judgmental and misogynistic language bother you in the least? I am of course speaking about your descriptors of your partner, having "obvious promiscuous tendancies(sic)."  If this was consensual sex (and I am assuming that it was), the two of you together made the decision to have unsafe, unprotected sex. She didn't force you to have intercourse without a condom, did she? No. I didn't think so.

Do you get where I'm going here? People in glass houses, and all.
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yea.  i get where you're going there.  in fact, i had reservations about that line for that very reason (i typed it, deleted it, and then re-typed it).  It takes two to tango, as they say, and moral lapses were made by both parties that night.  In many ways I am the guiltier party.  I am truly sorry if my language offended anyone.  It wasn't my intention at all.  
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Well, I don't even consider it a "moral lapse." The two of you made a decision about the level of risk you were willing to take. Nothing more. (At least to me.) But sexuality causes people to react, respond, and think in ways that throw into question their own morality, shortcomings, behavioral patterns, etc. But clearly this forum is not the place for discussions of moral relativism, etc.

I do believe, however, that the language we use reflects our own fears, guilts, doubts, and belief systems, so that using negative and judgmental language about our partners ("promiscuous," "suspect," "highly questionable character" are a few I've seen on this forum) can be a way to absolve ourselves of guilt about the behavior in question. And this is generally related to our moral codes about sex, sorry to say. Who wants to think of themselves as "promiscuous?"  It's easier to point to our partners and make them out to be the "bad" person. Assuaging ourselves of guilt, as it were.

On the other hand, we do live in a sexist culture, so sometimes it just seems that these comments are unconscious sexist beliefs coming to light.

FWIW, which ain't much. :)

And I still don't think you have herpes, but if you are concerned, get tested.
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