Concerned about risk - should I test?

[RonnieSF]

Hi,

I'm 32 and have been in a monogamous relationship for seven years.

One week ago, at my bachelor party I had too much to drink, one thing led to another, ended up giving unprotected oral and having unprotected sex with a 37 y/o female friend.

She doesn't sleep around and has had one partner, with whom she has engaged in protected sex, for several months.

One week on, no itches, no rashes, no pain peeing, just complete anxiety. She looks after herself physically so I imagine she does sexually, also.

Should I get tested for gonorrhea? Chlamydia? Am I getting super anxious for no good reason? I would hate for one idiotic night to ruin a seven year relationship. I did wrong, but I can't undo what has been done.

Thanks

[Dr Sean Cummings]

Hi Ronnie

Great news.

I would say, keeep out of trouble, keep your fingers crossed and THEN if you get into mischief get tested.

Anyway, you're fine. Be good now.

best wishes, Sean

[RonnieSF]

Thank you, doctor. I tested on Monday (am currently on business in San Francisco - it was surprisingly easy to get a walk-in appointment despite not living here) and have just received my results: negative across the board on the 8-test panel.

If anyone else is reading this, don't let the anxiety/stress/guilt eat you alive. You screwed up. Get tested, keep your fingers crossed and stay out of trouble.

[Dr Sean Cummings]

Hello Ronnie

I think in reality that you are at exceptionally low risk of anything from this.

But as you say, you would hate for a moment of stupidity to ruin a long term relationship, so make sure you get tested BEFORE you resume sexual activity with your partner.

best regards, Sean