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Is it a high risk activity when solely getting a handjob from a sex worker?

I am interested in availing of a linggam massage from a sex worker but I have never had any encounter with a sex worker before. The thing with having a girlfriend give a handjob or massage is that it is more of a give and take relationship and it's really hard to fully relax and not have to reciprocate. I don't think I have ever have been in a relationship where I can just relax for 1 whole hour as they are not willing to do so and feels unnatural. Unlike when you pay for a therapist to give a body massage combined with a linggam massage, it is purely service oriented.

I will definitely make it clear I do not want a blowjob or have anything to do with sex and make sure she has her pants on even though I don't know if this is part of their scope to begin with. Even with condoms I would steer away from any bodily fluids/secretions.

For context, description of the service is as follows:

"A body massage, coupled with Swedish and a adult massage will leave you feeling refreshed and rejuvenated like never before. Each masseuse has been highly trained to deliver a variety of massage services.
You be serviced by our highly skilled masseuse or masseur, depending on your preference."

"Inclusions:

*Body Scrub
*Adult Bath
*Nuru Gel
*Swedish / Shiatsu Massage
*Topless Masseuse"


I am not really concerned on bacterial STDs / STIs like chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV, hepatitis among a few. But I am just concerned about viral skin-to-skin variants like HPV and Herpes. It is always said if it's a purely handjob activity, there should be very minimal to no risk at all. But I do want to tackle some angles that I could have missed out.

The only scenarios I can think of is when the therapist has herpes on the hands (which is rare to begin with). When vaginal secretions get into the hand and into my penis (when she touches herself--if ever). Saliva getting into the urethral opening/skin (for any reason despite no blowjobs given). Or if she is a crazy psychopath and intends to really infect you secretly given she knows she has some STD (which is more likely to be a case for people in that field of work. Not saying they are all like that but logic dictates it is more likely than from the normal population). But is there anything else to be looked at?

People might suggest to simply not do it at all if i'm overthinking it. But it's more of studying the risk first before jumping in. Rather be educated and make a decision than go do it and ask here later. Many years ago I was uneducated with STDs / STIs and had unprotected sex with someone I met on tinder for the first time in my life. Luckily there was nothing serious, but it was an eye opener. If the risk is something like 0.1% chance for instance then I would take that.
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Traditionally, linggam massages are just you being massaged with hands. So long as her mouth or genitals don't come into contact with your mouth or genitals, there is no risk for any STI.

Herpes on the hands is only infectious when someone has an outbreak, which would be visible to you. The skin on the hands doesn't shed - only mucous membrane skin sheds the virus.

I'm not sure what the "adult bath" entails, so I can't comment much on that, but again, if there isn't oral to genital, genital to genital or genital to anal contact, there's no risk.

I don't know where you live, but there isn't a country that doesn't have a fairly high prevalence of hsv1 that I've heard of. Some are higher than others, for sure, but it's not rare anywhere -

https://www.who.int/news/item/28-10-2015-globally-an-estimated-two-thirds-of-the-population-under-50-are-infected-with-herpes-simplex-virus-type-1

In any case, it sounds like it should be fine.
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Edit: I do know HIV, Hep B and Hep C are viruses just constructed the sentence wrong. As for Herpes despite HSV-2 being the more prevalent strain when it comes to the genitals, I am equally concerned about the likelihood of the therapist passing on HSV-1. Unlike in the US, HSV-1 is rare in people from our country.
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