Need the facts

[guiltridden222]

My boyfriend and I got into a fight about 2 weeks ago and I ended up going out to a bar and going home with an African American Male.  We did not have sex, but we had oral sex both ways...he didnt ***.  It all is a little fuzzy but I wouldnt be surprised if our privates touched.  I am a female, and about 9 days after the incident I started having brown discharge.  It wasn't a lot but it has been constant for the past five days.  It turned from brown to red to a light red now.  It doesnt burn when I pee, or have itchy genitalia.  My stomach sometimes hurts, but I cant tell if it is my guilt or a health condition.  No other symptoms other than that.  I have had a dry, scratchy throat that is sometimes productive, but I am not sure if it is a cold or possibly an STD of the throat symptom?  The man I had relations with told me he was STD free and had been tested about 3 weeks ago, but I dont know him well so I can trust that only so much.  I know it is hard to believe, but my boyfriend and I are monogomous other than this stupid mistake, and I love him and do not want to lose him solely based on this mistake.  I went to the gyno yesterday and I am currently waiting the test results, but it will take a week and I dont know how many more sleepless nights I can have.  I am not pregnant.  the Dr. thought that it might be my hormones out of wack because I am on birth control and have been for a couple years, but I am worrying it is something else.  I have not been taking my BC pills at the exact time every day, but I do take one once a day.  My boyfriend and I had sex every day for six days after the incident, and have not since.  My questions are:

1) what is the likelihood of contracting a genital STD through oral sex for a female?
2) How soon the symptoms would start showing?
3) The likelihood of giving this STD to my boyfriend if we only had sex during the incubation time of chlamydia or gonorrhea? (Those are my guesses if I have anything)
4) How common is brown/red discharge the ONLY symptom of the above said STDs, and would it appear this quickly?
5) Is there any other possible way for me to contract something infectious that could get passed on to my bf that could be causing these symptoms? (toilet seat...etc)

Percentages of these possibilities occurring would be much appreciated in the answers, but I understand it is kind of hard to gauge it.  Thank you...this is eating me up inside and time seems to be standing still until I know.  Any knowledge will help me.

[auntiejessi]

Why don't you just get checked and find out for sure, and end the worrying, etc.?

Aj

[guiltridden222]

Thank you for your posts.  I had my period about a week and a half ago...thats the wierd thing.  I usually never spot in between periods.  I know I'm probably just exaggerating this in my head.  I am literally driving myself sick from guilt...dizzy spells, stomach aches, etc.  Is the brown/red discharge a common symptom of these stds as opposed to any other color discharge? I hope that both of you are right and that I have nothing.  I'll just have to pray that this all turns out ok.

[london08]

lol I just realised emma already anwered this completely and accurately, I really need to read before I write essays!

[london08]

1) It is extremely unlikely that you contracted an STI through this mode of transmission. Gonorrhoea can sometimes be passed from a male to a female during oral sex and this infection would manifest in your throat and is much less serious than genital gonorrhoea. Chlamydia is not passed through oral sex.
2) Symptoms of genital gonorrhoea in women can show in 24 hours or may take up to 3 weeks, after this if you have no symptoms they are unlikely to show until much much later as you enter the asymptomatic stage of infection.
3) In the unlikely event that you had contracted either of these, it would be about 30 percent (as far as I remember) chance of transmission from a female to a male. I don't really place much importance on these kind of stats though (which is why I'm a bit hazy on the exact figure) because, if there is a risk, you should get tested no matter the percentage!
4) Brown discharge is due to blood. Are you near your menstrual period? STIs don't really normally cause a brown discharge until very late stages of the bacterial infections.
5) Toilet seats and every day contact are NOT modes of transmission for STIs. So I don't think he will buy that if you tell him that as any doctor will tell him otherwise and he is bound to ask isn't he!

To sum up, I seriously doubt based on the description of your exposure, that you could have been infected with anything. I think the discharge is not being caused by an STI and I think you can rest assured your tests will come back negative. Best of luck with this, let me know how it goes.

[Emma_08]

1)  Oral sex is generally low risk.  There is a small risk of gonorrhea, syphilis, and HSV-1 (however, if your partner did not have a visible cold sore, don't worry about it).
2)  Depends.  Often times, STDs are asymptomatic for a really long time.  However, someitmes symptoms start to show up in a few days.
3)  I'm not sure about this.
4)  Spotting during in between your periods can be a symptom of STD, but not necessarily.  It sounds like the brown discharge could be old blood and you are getting your period.  However, it's smart that you are getting tested.
5)  Unlikely - it doesn't sound like you have bacterial vaginosis or yeast.  If you didn't have intercourse, your chances are lower for having an STD.  But the only way you will find out is from your test results.

Good luck,
Em