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Please help I'm having a lot of anxiety about this.
So. I met a guy on the 11th of April we rubbed his barepenis between my butt cheeks, and on my clit there was a lot of precum. He says he has only had one other partner but he didnt get tested after them. So I freaked out. And I went and got tested on the 28th...all of my tests were negative on the 28th...but did I test too soon?
Should I test again? Do I have a high risk of exposure to anything? I was on my period and had a tampon in...what are my risks he says he doesnt need to get tested cause we didnt have actual sex just teased..I'm really scared I havent done anything like this before and my doctor was no help...whatre the odds of pregnancy from this behavior as well? He didnt finish..but I'm so scared please help me. I posted in the HIV one but they said it wasnt possible to HIv this way..bjt my doctor said it was irresponsible and I've exposed myself..and I'm scared please help
Should I test again? Do I have a high risk of exposure to anything? I was on my period and had a tampon in...what are my risks he says he doesnt need to get tested cause we didnt have actual sex just teased..I'm really scared I havent done anything like this before and my doctor was no help...whatre the odds of pregnancy from this behavior as well? He didnt finish..but I'm so scared please help me. I posted in the HIV one but they said it wasnt possible to HIv this way..bjt my doctor said it was irresponsible and I've exposed myself..and I'm scared please help
Not a good doctor to start off with!
No risk of HIV at all. And in fact no real risk of any STI as no penetration occurred. Slight risk of herpes and syphilis but no enough to cause a worry.
Also no real risk of pregnancy. If the "precum" got into you then there is a slight risk, but nothing to worry about from my point of view (side note I am a bloke and do not work with gynae and maternity!)
No risk of HIV at all. And in fact no real risk of any STI as no penetration occurred. Slight risk of herpes and syphilis but no enough to cause a worry.
Also no real risk of pregnancy. If the "precum" got into you then there is a slight risk, but nothing to worry about from my point of view (side note I am a bloke and do not work with gynae and maternity!)
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I forgot to say the test you had on the 28 (17 days after) is conclusive for chlamydia and gonorrhoea. You never had any risk of HIV so doesnt matter with that and I wouldnt worry about syph :)
My doctor made me feel really bad and anxious about everything. told me if I was going to be making big girl decisions I had to deal with big girl consequences...I changed my tampon out after we did all this after wiping off the precum....so im m worried I pushed the precum in me with this action but she scared me and then wouldn't do a pregnancy test...
Also thank you for the fast reply I've never done anyth in my like this before and my doctor made me feel really bad.
Your doctor is a jerk.
Unless there is penetration, pregnancy isn't at all likely to happen, plus you were on your period and wearing a tampon. By the time you wiped and changed tampons, any sperm would remaining would have died or degraded enough to not be able to fertilize an egg, if you had one ready to fertilize.
If a partner won't test, that's a red flag - not that he has an STD necessarily, but that he doesn't respect you.
https://www.iwannaknow.org/ has a LOT of info you can read - about pregnancy, sex, STDs, etc. This is all a normal, natural part of you - your sexuality can be really beautiful, but there are lots of things you should know. Not because "big girl decisions have big girl consequences", but so you can be fully informed, know about your body and protect yourself. :)
Unless there is penetration, pregnancy isn't at all likely to happen, plus you were on your period and wearing a tampon. By the time you wiped and changed tampons, any sperm would remaining would have died or degraded enough to not be able to fertilize an egg, if you had one ready to fertilize.
If a partner won't test, that's a red flag - not that he has an STD necessarily, but that he doesn't respect you.
https://www.iwannaknow.org/ has a LOT of info you can read - about pregnancy, sex, STDs, etc. This is all a normal, natural part of you - your sexuality can be really beautiful, but there are lots of things you should know. Not because "big girl decisions have big girl consequences", but so you can be fully informed, know about your body and protect yourself. :)
Thank you for your reply I appreciate your kindness
You're welcome. :)
Sorry to bother you again..but when could I take an accurate pregnancy test to put my mind at ease... my doctor wouldn't order one..so I've bought tests it was negative yesterday...
I am not mature enough for this. I'm way too anxious over everything lol I am so sorry
I really don't like your doctor.
When was your last period? If you haven't had one since, you must be coming up for one soon?
Most pregnancy tests - despite their promises - are most accurate after you're late a period. They may say they can detect it before, and to some degree, they might, but if you read the fine print, they might only be 20% accurate or something.
If you're irregular, this doesn't help much.
So starting from the first day of your last period, count 28 days. That's the most common cycle. Some women have different lengths, though. Some women, especially younger teens, are irregular and might have months where they go 28 days one month, and 34 the next and then 25 the next, or skip one.
Here's more info on periods - https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/puberty/whats-periods (I don't know if you're a teen, but it's written without a lot of medical stuff, so I use this one a lot.)
There are a ton of apps that will help you track this if you don't already. They are all basically the same - find one that is highly rated, and that you like the looks of. If they give you an option to not collect data, definitely choose that.
You getting pregnant from what you describe, though, would be impossible.
It's so okay if you aren't ready for it, and it's awesome that you recognize that. Now you know, and you can wait until you are. It doesn't matter if you are 15, 18, 20 or whatever age. If you aren't ready, you just aren't. :)
When was your last period? If you haven't had one since, you must be coming up for one soon?
Most pregnancy tests - despite their promises - are most accurate after you're late a period. They may say they can detect it before, and to some degree, they might, but if you read the fine print, they might only be 20% accurate or something.
If you're irregular, this doesn't help much.
So starting from the first day of your last period, count 28 days. That's the most common cycle. Some women have different lengths, though. Some women, especially younger teens, are irregular and might have months where they go 28 days one month, and 34 the next and then 25 the next, or skip one.
Here's more info on periods - https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/puberty/whats-periods (I don't know if you're a teen, but it's written without a lot of medical stuff, so I use this one a lot.)
There are a ton of apps that will help you track this if you don't already. They are all basically the same - find one that is highly rated, and that you like the looks of. If they give you an option to not collect data, definitely choose that.
You getting pregnant from what you describe, though, would be impossible.
It's so okay if you aren't ready for it, and it's awesome that you recognize that. Now you know, and you can wait until you are. It doesn't matter if you are 15, 18, 20 or whatever age. If you aren't ready, you just aren't. :)
I am super irregular. It's hard for me to know when my period actually started this past month too. I bleed a bit before my actual period starts but last month I started bleeding a little april 5th but it was just a little bit and it stayed super light bleeding until the 12th, but then the 12th through the 17th it was super heavy bleeding and then super light and ended the 20th. It was a really weird period for me. I've had it since I was 9 and this was by far my weirdest month. But I haven't started bleeding for may yet..but I don't feel like its gonna start soon either if that makes sense. Also thank you so much.
Would it cause concern if the precum was close to my vaginal entrance ? When I wiped it off it was kinda close between my bottom and the vaginal entrance. but I was not sure if it was him or me I was wiping off at that point..i know for sure his penis did not go in but I dont remember how close he got to my entrance now. I might be giving myself more anxiety by over thinking this part cause it was almost a month ago now its kinda hard to remember exactly where he stopped at and what my anxiety is trying to make me remember lol versus what actually happened. Thank you so much for responding and now being annoying with my questions
I'm going to reiterate what auntiejessi stated:
You getting pregnant from what you describe, though, would be impossible.
Any realistic chance of pregnancy would only occur when a penis is INSIDE your vagina, and the male has precum or ejaculates while inside. Semen/sperm do not "crawl" from outside of the vaginal opening and somehow make their way up to your cervix. The situation you describe is not a risk for pregnancy.
You getting pregnant from what you describe, though, would be impossible.
Any realistic chance of pregnancy would only occur when a penis is INSIDE your vagina, and the male has precum or ejaculates while inside. Semen/sperm do not "crawl" from outside of the vaginal opening and somehow make their way up to your cervix. The situation you describe is not a risk for pregnancy.
Oh you were ON your period when it happened. I had forgotten about that. You had a tampon in.
There is NO chance that this resulted in pregnancy. Any semen would have been absorbed by the tampon.
Is this level of anxiety new for you? You should talk to someone about this, like a counselor.
There is NO chance that this resulted in pregnancy. Any semen would have been absorbed by the tampon.
Is this level of anxiety new for you? You should talk to someone about this, like a counselor.
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