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Drunk and Sleeping
Couple of days ago I drunk a little too much at my friend's house. I remember that night and I never blacked out before when I drink alcohol. I also remember the things we talked about. My friend is a gay and I am a boy. After we finished drinking I went to sleep. He drank very little or maybe didn't. I slept immediately after I went to bed. And also I slept very deeply. Is it possible that my gay friend touched or penetrated his penis in my anus or raped me during my sleep? I didn't feel anything when I slept as I was sleeping very deeply. When I woke up in the morning I throw up and I had a headache and I had diarrhea. But I didn't feel anything strange with my genital area and anus. Should I get tested for HIV and other STDs? And I think I never blacked out in my life when I was drunk but is it possible to black out and don't know that you blacked out?
I think I have OCD, HIV phobia and these kind of stuff. However I haven't visit a therapist yet. So I don't have OCD diagnosis. I only stayed in someone's house twice. And it was the second time that I stayed in someone's house. I usually reject if someone offer me to stay in their house because I am always afraid that at night someone will do something to me sexually. And the last time I was drunk and slept deeply so I am very anxious. I should mention that we weren't alone in my friend's house. I always think the times that I was drunk and think that what if I did something wrong or someone did something to me? But I knew everything and remember everything even when I was drunk. I am afraid of being drunk and do something bad even if I didn't and I remember everything. But being drunk doesn't mean losing yourself completely and allow someone to rape you in your sleep right? I hope so because I don't want to go STD testing after everytime I drink and wait for 3 months.
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If you are one of those people who can consume a lot of alcohol, then yes, you can drink yourself into a stupor where you might be awake but not remember what you did. People who have the ability to drink that much are very prone to becoming alcoholics, so I think the first thing for you to do is stop drinking so much at a time. But people who do drink that much usually have a reason why they do that, and that reason can differ for different people. Some are depressed or anxious and self-medicating. Some want to free their inhibitions because they like the nutty things they do when drunk and wouldn't do when sober. You are now saying you're an anxiety sufferer, but you aren't describing OCD. A phobia isn't the same thing as OCD. There are so many possibilities going on here I could write a book about it just from this short paragraph. You might be describing an inner wish that something does happen but you're terrified of being gay. You might be describing a phobia about being gay even though you aren't. You might be describing a phobia of getting HIV. But the common denominator here is you appear to have irrational fears, and the label you put on it is less important than fixing it. Good luck in therapy. Peace.
Thank you for your response. So should I be tested for STDs or not? Can I move on with my life or wait 3 months and get tested?
There isn't any way that you'd be anally penetrated without you feeling something the next day. You do not need to test for STDs, but please do invest that time instead in getting therapy.
Thank you very much. You made me relieved. And thanks to everyone who responded. You all made me relieved and now I can move on with my life.
Your welcome. :)
I want to specify that I didn't black out or pass out. I went to bed to sleep consciously after we finished drinking. But immediately slept. I also wonder if he did something to me wouldn't I feel if I sleep very deeply? I slept deep and woke up in the morning and everything was normal except I throwed up, had a headache and diarrhea. But then I started thinking " What if he did something to me?" I am feeling anxious and thinking about stop drinking completely. However I am not a heavy drinker and I drink about once a month. But sometimes I drink a little too much. Also I say that I had never black out. But if I blacked out would I know it?
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Since this person is your friend, why don't you just ask him if anything happened? I feel like you are thinking irrationally. As others have said, why would your friend harm you?
Blacked out or not, you almost certainly would have felt someone penetrating you anally, if you have not been penetrated anally before. It would be fairly painful.
I do think you are on the right track about stopping drinking. Alcohol is not helping you, and if getting drunk is causing you to think that your friend raped you, that's just not good. The symptoms you describe are symptoms of alcohol poisoning, or a severe hangover. An STD would not cause vomiting, headache, and diarrhea the next morning. Excessive alcohol consumption would cause those symptoms, though.
Blacked out or not, you almost certainly would have felt someone penetrating you anally, if you have not been penetrated anally before. It would be fairly painful.
I do think you are on the right track about stopping drinking. Alcohol is not helping you, and if getting drunk is causing you to think that your friend raped you, that's just not good. The symptoms you describe are symptoms of alcohol poisoning, or a severe hangover. An STD would not cause vomiting, headache, and diarrhea the next morning. Excessive alcohol consumption would cause those symptoms, though.
If this is a friend, you don't seem to have a very high opinion of him. You're basically asking if it's possible you got raped by someone who you say is a friend. Is there something about him that would make you think he's capable of doing that? Is it possible? Anything's possible. Is it likely? No. As for your illness the next day, you wouldn't notice any symptoms of a sexual disease that fast, but you might do that if you drank so much you passed out and so you did. Unless you're friends with a rapist, no, you have no reason to get tested, but you might want to think why you think this person is capable of doing something so terrible and if he is, or you know he's done something like this before, well, that's a different story.
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"If this is a friend, you don't seem to have a very high opinion of him."
This is exactly what I thought - you think a friend would rape you in your sleep? Gay people are not predatory any more than straight people are, and just as you are not attracted to every female, gay men are not attracted to every man. It's important that you know that, and know that just because your friend is gay, it doesn't mean he's attracted to you, or wants to have sex with you.
It definitely doesn't mean he would harm you.
All it means is that while you like women, he likes men. It doesn't mean he would hurt anyone, or have an STD.
Your symptoms the next day sound like a hangover. As Paxiled says, you wouldn't feel symptoms of an STD the next day. Symptoms of an STD won't appear for at least 2 days, at the minimum.
I know we sound a little harsh, but we want to help you understand that gay people are just like anyone else.
This is exactly what I thought - you think a friend would rape you in your sleep? Gay people are not predatory any more than straight people are, and just as you are not attracted to every female, gay men are not attracted to every man. It's important that you know that, and know that just because your friend is gay, it doesn't mean he's attracted to you, or wants to have sex with you.
It definitely doesn't mean he would harm you.
All it means is that while you like women, he likes men. It doesn't mean he would hurt anyone, or have an STD.
Your symptoms the next day sound like a hangover. As Paxiled says, you wouldn't feel symptoms of an STD the next day. Symptoms of an STD won't appear for at least 2 days, at the minimum.
I know we sound a little harsh, but we want to help you understand that gay people are just like anyone else.
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