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I had an encounter with a male sex worker.
We just had body contact, making our and light hand to genital contact (I touched him he didn’t really touch me)

I noticed he had some bumps and whatnot on his shoulders and bicep and while he said he was recently rested and negative, I am concerned there may be syphillis. My genitals did not make contact with his arm, I may have put my mouth around or even on the bumps.

My anxiety is terrible and I am seeking help.
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207091 tn?1337709493
You keep asking all these no risk questions, so here's how STIs are transmitted -

* Unprotected oral, vaginal or anal sex - actual penetration in the mouth, vagina or anus

* Direct, unclothed skin to skin contact of the mouth, genitals or anus - think rubbing or grinding without clothing. This usually requires time and friction, usually the kind associated with intercourse. A brief touch is not going to transmit anything.

This means mouth to genitals, genitals to genitals, or genitals to anus.

A syphilis rash isn't on the biceps and shoulders.

The others are right (and you've now heard from all of us). Your anxiety is the biggest problem you face here.
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Thank you. I have terrible anxiety and guilt, I am seeking treatment. I received a warning for posting similar questions and I’ll refrain going forward. I am now 100% clear on which activities pose risk, and I accept and understand that hands and saliva are safe activities.

Thank you all for your kindness and willingness to help.
You're welcome.

Remember that guilt doesn't equal risk, and anxiety is treatable. I don't know why you feel guilt, and don't need to. That's something you can work through with a qualified mental health therapist who also helps you with anxiety. Talk to your doctor and ask for a referral to a qualified therapist. You don't have to tell your doctor that you feel guilt over sexual activity, just say that you have serious anxiety over a lot of things.

I wish you the best.
20620809 tn?1504362969
So, in looking at your posts, you have several and they are ALL no risk. I think the real problem here is your anxiety. My recommendation is to begin working on this. Anxiety is a treatable condition. Reassurance seeking each time is not helping you. You have to work on the anxiety to move past this.
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So after some googling some updates:

He had no sores on his penis. He did have acne on his torso, so it could be that.
The mystery bump on his arm doesn’t look like how it presents.

Can someone please answer the hypothetical risk of that bump on his arm was indeed a chancre?
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No risk at all. not even 0.1% of a risk
Syphilis doesn't manifest itself in bumps. If it wasn't generalized rash (all over the body), you have nothing to worry about.
Chancres don't appear on hands.
If you feel so anxious about such little things, you should definitely avoid seeing CSWs.
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