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23 Weeks
Hello,
My husband cheated on me March 31st, 2009. He was very drunk and does not believe they had sex but is sure she gave him oral sex. We had vaginal and oral sex soon after. I started getting symptoms like sores in my mouth, bumps along the tip of my tounge and sores in my vagina approximately 10 days after exposure. The doctor tested me for VDRL, and Herpes 21 days later, they came back negative. My husband had a swab test for herpes so we are still waiting for the results. He is getting the swab test for syphilis tomorrow. I was cleared yesterday by the doctor for gonnorea and chlymadia from a swab test.
I am very worried it is syphilis. If it is what will it do to my baby? Can I do more then just wait for the tests?
Is the VDRL accurate if I have visable symptoms? The internet is full of information and I am going crazy reading about all the posibilies. Can you help?
My husband cheated on me March 31st, 2009. He was very drunk and does not believe they had sex but is sure she gave him oral sex. We had vaginal and oral sex soon after. I started getting symptoms like sores in my mouth, bumps along the tip of my tounge and sores in my vagina approximately 10 days after exposure. The doctor tested me for VDRL, and Herpes 21 days later, they came back negative. My husband had a swab test for herpes so we are still waiting for the results. He is getting the swab test for syphilis tomorrow. I was cleared yesterday by the doctor for gonnorea and chlymadia from a swab test.
I am very worried it is syphilis. If it is what will it do to my baby? Can I do more then just wait for the tests?
Is the VDRL accurate if I have visable symptoms? The internet is full of information and I am going crazy reading about all the posibilies. Can you help?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
On further reflection, herpes might be a possibility. It would have helped to know what sort of penile lesion or sore(s) he had that was tested for herpes and syphilis. And the risk of herpes would be higher if he in fact had genital sex (which reportedly doesn't remember or "think" happened). But I look forward to learning the test results. If a swab test for herpes is positive, it is crucial to know for sure whether it is HSV-1 or HSV-2. Most labs do that part routinely, but some do not. Make sure about it.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
This still doesn't sound like syphilis. However, the doctor who did the darkfield examination ("scape test") would not have done that if s/he was not suspicious about syphilis. But I'm sure that's not what you or your husband have.
I cannot speculate about other diagnoses. Almost certainly not an STD and not related at all to your husband's other sexual contact.
Echinacea has no effect on the immune system. I cannot advise you on whether or not it is safe in pregnancy. Talk to your Ob about it.
If a positive test for syphils or other STD shows up in your or your husband, please post a comment and let me know. Other than that, no more comments on this thread, please. Other than test results, there is nothing else that will change my opinion or advice.
I cannot speculate about other diagnoses. Almost certainly not an STD and not related at all to your husband's other sexual contact.
Echinacea has no effect on the immune system. I cannot advise you on whether or not it is safe in pregnancy. Talk to your Ob about it.
If a positive test for syphils or other STD shows up in your or your husband, please post a comment and let me know. Other than that, no more comments on this thread, please. Other than test results, there is nothing else that will change my opinion or advice.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the STD forum. I'll try to help. The bottom line is that you do not have syphilis. Your mouth bumps and other symptoms probably have nothing to do with your husband's sexual indiscretion.
You are right to be concerned about syphilis while pregnant; it can be devastating to a fetus or newborn. But the chance of syphilis in this situation is close to zero and your symptoms do not suggest it. Syphilis is a rare disease, with only ~20,000 cases per year in the entire United States, with most of those occurring in gay men. And catching syphilis from a single episode of (heterosexual) oral sex is exceedingly unlikely. And if your husband caught syphilis March 31, he wouldn't even begin to have symptoms until now, at the earliest -- and if you caught it, still another several weeks would be required. And as I said, your symptoms don't suggest syphilis.
To calm your fears, your obstetrician will probably do another syphilis blood test after ~6 weeks have gone by and maybe again toward the end of pregnancy. You can expect negative results.
As for other STDs, a single episode of oral sex is very low risk. STDs are transmitted primarily by vaginal and anal sex, only rarely by oral sex. And there are no STDs that cause the sort of symptoms you describe. You really have no worries.
Bottom line: Make sure your obstetrician is aware of the situation then follow his or her advice. But really, do not worry about your health or that of your baby. All is well.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
You are right to be concerned about syphilis while pregnant; it can be devastating to a fetus or newborn. But the chance of syphilis in this situation is close to zero and your symptoms do not suggest it. Syphilis is a rare disease, with only ~20,000 cases per year in the entire United States, with most of those occurring in gay men. And catching syphilis from a single episode of (heterosexual) oral sex is exceedingly unlikely. And if your husband caught syphilis March 31, he wouldn't even begin to have symptoms until now, at the earliest -- and if you caught it, still another several weeks would be required. And as I said, your symptoms don't suggest syphilis.
To calm your fears, your obstetrician will probably do another syphilis blood test after ~6 weeks have gone by and maybe again toward the end of pregnancy. You can expect negative results.
As for other STDs, a single episode of oral sex is very low risk. STDs are transmitted primarily by vaginal and anal sex, only rarely by oral sex. And there are no STDs that cause the sort of symptoms you describe. You really have no worries.
Bottom line: Make sure your obstetrician is aware of the situation then follow his or her advice. But really, do not worry about your health or that of your baby. All is well.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
This doesn't sound like any STD, and maybe nothing abnormal at all. I suggest you stop trying to figure it out by online searching or this forum. See a health care provider.
I won't have any further comments. Good luck.
I won't have any further comments. Good luck.
Doctor in the last week or so red bumps have formed on the back ofmy tongue. These in an odd indentation with small flaps of skin sticking up. I have mild throat irritation. I am still waiting for the results of our blood tests. Can you give me ant idea what this might be considering my situation? I am deeply concerned. Thank you.
The lesion that was tested was under his tounge. He has only had a bit of redness on his peinis but no sores. I had a leison tested from my vagina so hopefully both areas are covered.
Thanks again.
Thanks again.
Thank you for the reply. This site is very helpful.
The doctor tested for syphilis only because my husband specifically asked for it. That doctor also mentioned it did not look like syphilis.
What I meant to ask before is if you believe it sounds like herpes. I read your comment, "Almost certainly not an STD and not related at all to your husband's other sexual contact." but I am very curious about the issues in my vagina and have not found anything explaining what else it could be. Especially since it happened about 10 days after his indirection.
I will post a soon as we get the other results.
The doctor tested for syphilis only because my husband specifically asked for it. That doctor also mentioned it did not look like syphilis.
What I meant to ask before is if you believe it sounds like herpes. I read your comment, "Almost certainly not an STD and not related at all to your husband's other sexual contact." but I am very curious about the issues in my vagina and have not found anything explaining what else it could be. Especially since it happened about 10 days after his indirection.
I will post a soon as we get the other results.
Thank you for the information. As of late my husband had the scrape test which came out negative for syphilis. Is this test conclusive and/or definite?
As for the sores in our mouth and my vagina. They are not painful and don't seem to be going away. We are still awaiting the herpes swab results.
Oddly, my husband and I have the same kind of nodule under our tongues on the part connecting the tongue to the lower gum as well as odd bumps and nodules on the back of the tongue. What could this be?
Do you suggest taking Echinacea while pregnant to boost my immune system.
As for the sores in our mouth and my vagina. They are not painful and don't seem to be going away. We are still awaiting the herpes swab results.
Oddly, my husband and I have the same kind of nodule under our tongues on the part connecting the tongue to the lower gum as well as odd bumps and nodules on the back of the tongue. What could this be?
Do you suggest taking Echinacea while pregnant to boost my immune system.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
