Advice for future life because worried

[hareramaharekrishna]

Helo

and sorry for bad english.  Hope you will understand.  Myself 26 years old male. Uncircumcised

December 2012: Protected oral and protected vaginal sex 4 times with same sex Hooker + deep kiss + unprotected cunnilingus

5th January 2013: Protected oral and protected vaginal sex 3 times with same sex worker + kiss + bare cunnilingus

20th January 2013: wild protected oral and vaginal sex + unprotected cunnilingus

5th February 2013: Protected oral and protected vaginal sex with CSW + kiss + bare cunnilingus

28th  Ferbruary 2013:  Unprotected oral on me for 10 minutes + wild protected vaginal several times + kiss + unprotected cunnilingus.  I had a cuts from shaving my penis and scrotum around 30-45 minutes before the sex.  The cuts/scrapes were bleeding a bit when fresh and stopped after bath.  One was on my shaft and one on my scrotum. They had completely healed after two days but were quite fresh on moment of sex.  She even licked them when doing unprotected oral.  Next day of sex I saw some abrasions on penis shaft because protected sex was really rough. She had long fingernails also which may scraped my penis skin.  There was also trauma on penis head (frenulum of prepuce) with bleeding after unprotected oral on me because it was also rough.

After (12 weeks) exactly at 3 months.. End of May: I tested for syphilis, Hep B, Hep C, HIV and Herpes specific type blood tests and Gonorhea, chlamydia and Non Gonococcal urethritis and throat gonorhea.  All negative. Tested in UK private clinic.

Arranged Marriage Next week.  It is for life and I cannot afford to give her anything.  I really want a happy family and live with no fear in my heart.

Based on what I saying above, when I get married next week and have sex with my wife and have kids, do I have to fear any Stds or HERPES transmission to her?

Very anxiety anxiety and fear in me.  I hope The Almighty will help me.  No eat and sleep well.  really worried.

Thanks Doctor

Namaste

[hareramaharekrishna]

Thank you! You saved my marriage and my life.

Cheers and Bye

[Edward W Hook, MD]

No change in my assessment or advice.  EWH

[hareramaharekrishna]

To be clearer, I took Herpes Type Specific Blood test also as mentioned in my initial post.  It was done same day as all others. i.e. 3 months after the last sex this year which involved unprotected oral and protected vaginal sex.

I had written Herpes Specific type blood test instead up there.  I hope you read it in the correct way.

I am sorry for my bad english.  Please let me know if this changes anything in the fact that I can now have unprotected sex with my wife without fear of STDs including herpes?

[hareramaharekrishna]

I made a typo mistake up there doctor.  The tests I took include Herpes Type Specific Blood testing in the 3 months post last sex test (unprotected oral/protected vaginal). I hope you read it like this.  I had written it wrongly in my initial post.

Does this change anything to your advise about my marriage or STD concern?

I am really sorry.  This is my last post. I will not post further.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Glad to help. EWH

[hareramaharekrishna]

Million thanks to you doctor.  There is no amount of thanks that can express my unending gratitude towards Dr HHH, Medhelp and you most of all.

God bless you.  I will concentrate on what is important now - my family, marriage and future.  I pray that your family and you be happy, wealthy and healthy.

The world is lucky to have people like Dr HHH and you.

Bye and take care.  Thank you once again to have taken off the load off me.

Much obliged and without wax,
YR

[Edward W Hook, MD]

You are correct, the unprotected sex was your highest risk event.  Nonetheless, even without testing the risk was low and your tests prove that you were not infected.  No change in my assessment or recommendations.  EWH

[hareramaharekrishna]

Thank you by the way doctor.

[hareramaharekrishna]

Doctor I forgot to mention the worse of all.  I had unprotected vaginal penetration with a friend (my cousin's ex GF) on two occasions for like 3 minutes each time.  I did not complete the sex because it was my first time and I was really scared. She was not a virgin and had other partners before. I do not know her STD status. I am not in contact with her since.  I know she has IBS or Chrohn's disease. This encounter happened six months ago in December 2012.  


Based on this, and the fact that today all my tests are negative including Herpes, can I have unprotected sex with my wife without fear as you said above? (I means sex after marriage of course)

I am really sorry. I missed it in the chronological details above.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to the Forum.  The encounters you describe are very low risk for any STIs, including HIV and your negative tests 3 months following your last exposure completely rule out any possibility that you have any of the STDs of concern.   Your genital exposures were condom protected and oral sex (receiving oral sex or cunnilingus) are very, very low risk for most STIs and are not associated with any risk for HIV- none!  That you had shaving cuts on your scrotum and genitals during some of these events in no way changes things.

There is no reason for any lingering fear that you might have any STD, nor any reason for further testing.  You can go forward with your marriage without concern and have no fear of transmitting any STD to your future wife.  EWH

[hareramaharekrishna]

Tested in May 2013, i.e. 3 months past last sex which involved unprotected oral and protected vaginal but I had some shaving cuts and got injuries during the sex also.  Results came in today 4th June 2013.