Hello,
In September 2010, I had unprotected oral (receiving) and vaginal sex with one person.
I was separated from my wife at the time and reunited with her in October 2010, at which point we began having unprotected sex within the marriage. My wife hasn't had sexual partners other than myself.
In December 2010, I submitted to blood and urine STD tests. I tested positive for Chlamidya and negative for Hepatitis B, Hepatitis C, Gonorrhea, Herpes 1, Herpes 2 HIV and Syphillis. Following my positive test, my wife went to her doctor for testing. Today she told me her doctor informed her she tested positive for Chlamidya, Syphillis and Herpes. According to her, her doctor says I can carry and pass on Syphillis and Herpes even while testing negative. She also says the tests show the Herpes may be 2-3 years old, but more tests are needed to determine the type and duration of her Herpes infection. She says results of Gonorrhea and HIV are still pending.
During the past 3 years my wife had a pap regularly, and the results were normal. We had a child in June 2010, and during the pregnancy she was tested for STDs and the results were all negative. However, according to my wife via her doctor, these tests may be unreliable because they were conducted in a foreign country (Hong Kong, we are now back in the U.S.).
My questions are:
1) Are STD tests in Hong Kong known to be any less reliable than those in the U.S.?
2) Is it possible for me to test negative for Herpes and Syphillis yet still pass the diseases on to others?
3) Is it possible that I obtained and transmitted Herpes and Syphillis to her 2-3 years ago, and she received false negatives on her previous STD tests?
4) How likely is it that my STD tests produced false negatives?
5) I believe my wife may be embellishing to increase my feelings of guilt. In your opinion, does her story add up given the other known facts?
Thanks for any help!