ALL USERS PLEASE NOTE:
This is the sort of question that belongs in the HIV/Safe Sex Forum, not the STD Forum. Normally it would be deleted without response. I let this one through because I wanted other readers to see it as a reminder. (bob smith, don't take it personally.)
Certainly your partner should have informed you of his or her (you don't say whether male or female) HIV infection. That's a basic for all HIV infected persons, even when safe sex is planned--because intentions of safety often fall away in the heat of the moment, and condoms sometimes fail.
That said, you had safe sex. Acquiring HIV by receiving oral sex has never been proved to occur. There are claims, but no truly documented cases--or at least so few that it proves the point about how rare it is. And your symptoms don't suggest any STD, and your testing was negative. A "red, inflamed" penis suggests irritation, e.g. from latex allergy, a lubricant, spermicide, etc. "Flu-like" symptoms 6 days after exposure don't suggest any STD, and 6 days is too soon for HIV to cause symptoms.
1) No. I am aware of no illness that delays HIV seroconversion.
2-4) Irrelevant: whether or not you had something that could have increased the risk, your test results show you didn't catch HIV. 8 weeks is plenty long enough to rely on the test result--but since so many experts recommend 3 months, feel free to be retested then. The result will be negative. ELISA is all you need.
5) Nobody's name ever is "reported to CDC". In many states, if someone has documented HIV infection (some states) or overt AIDS, the case is reported to the local and/or state health department. Those agencies protect the names with extreme care, and the identities of infected people never go to CDC or any other federal agency. In the entire 25 year history of AIDS in the United States, to my knowledge there has never been a single case of a health agency inappropriately providing an infected person's name to someone who shouldn't have seen it. (Maybe a couple of cases in the early years, but certainly not in the past many years.) And of course the fact of just having a test is never reported to anybody. (But having a viral load test would be really dumb anyway.)
6) Not knowing the cause of you symptoms, I cannot suggest any treatment. See a health care provider.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
First of all, your sexual encounter w/this HIV+ person wasn't risky. You recieved a blow job, which has never been documented by means of transmission. Second, I doubt inserting your finger in his anus carried much risk. If that were the case, we'd all have hiv. Now I don't think the bumps on your penis are an std b/c it wouldnt persist for this long. However, where a condom if you chose to be sexually active while you are trying to figure out whats going on and while the bumps still persist. That can increase the liklihood of aquiring something.