No distant online expert can guarantee someone isn't infected with something. But if I were in your situation, I would continue unprotected sex with my wife with no worries. No STDs are ever transmitted to children or babies, assuming no sexual abuse, and are never transmitted to anybody by sharing eating utensils, bathrooms, etc. It just doesn't happen. Here is a thread that explains why; start reading with the follow-up comment on December 14:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1119533
That's all for this thread. Please try to move on with your life.
Thank you Doctor!
Terri has been wonderful in helping me work through this awful experience!! I just needed confirmation by an MD for my own mental health! Thank you for your quick response, I will try my very best to move on with my life now.
I do have one FINAL question - I have a wife and two young babies - both under 4 months - do you think I am safe to kiss my babies and be around them and also to kiss my wife?? Also, is it safe to share eating utensils, in the sense that we eat out of the same plate using the same fork, etc
I PROMISE, no more questions!!
Thats it for me!!!!!!
Thank you again,
Sincerely,
Harj
I reviewed your prolonged thread on the herpes forum. I agree with all you were told by Terri. You describe an exposure that you obviously regret, but I doubt any of your symptoms are due to any infection from that event. Neither the original spots in your mouth or the recent one sound like herpes.
1) No, this doesn't sound like a "significant risk" exposure for herpes of either type.
2) I can't speculate on alternate explanations for the spots. But if they were painless red/purple spots and the oral sex was quite vigorous (i.e., sucking hard), your blood vessel explanation might make sense.
3) From a medical perspective, you don't need HSV testing and I recommend against it. Even if you had a positive result for either HSV-1 or 2, I would conclude you had an asymptomatic HSV infection plus another, still undiagnosed cause of the oral lesions.
4) A canker sore is more likely than herpes for the new lesion. Among other things, recurrent herpes lesions are on the outside of the mouth, not inside.
Unlike the herpes forum discussion, we're not going to get into a prolonged sequence of "yes but" or "what if" questions. If you have an HSV blood test, you may return to post the result and I will comment on it. Otherwise, I won't have anything more to say.
Regards-- HHH, MD