Welcome to the forum. The exposure you describe did not put you at risk for STDs, including HIV. Condom protected sex is safe sex and an intact condom indicates that your exposure was safe.
In general, most commercial sex workers do not have STDs or HIV. those who regularly use condoms are doing so to protect themselves, not their partners. Further. even in the unlikely circumstance that your partner was infected. most exposures do not result in infection.
I would have tested for STDs ha I seen you but I would have done so for completeness sake, not because of concern for STDs.
Finally, it sounds as though you have been examining yourself rather frequently an perhaps vigorously. I would urge you to stop this. If you wish to have the assurance of testing, feel free to do so but please do not repeatedly self examine yourself. If is of little good and may irritate you.
I hope these comments help. The activities you describe did not put you at risk for STDs, including HIV. EWH
Thank you very much for your reply. You have decreased my anxiety.
I do have one last concern and I will be finished asking questions. My concern is that I continued sex with the dancer for a few minutes after I ejaculated into the condom rather quickly. Was this a big mistake? I understand you should change condoms after ejaculation if continuing sex, but what is the reasoning. Does the condom become weak and fragile and is there a greater chance the condom could break or is it because the condom could slip off easier (Which it never did in my case, but I fear this could have caused a break on the top)?
I am concerened I may of allowed a breakage in the condom by continuing sex after I ejaculated. I have never seen a broken condom before so I do not know what to look for. I am assuming there would have been a rather big mess to clean up if it did break - is that a fair statement?
I am sorry for the second concern but I would love to clear this concern up with you so I could move past it.
I am assuming I would have known right away and very clearly if the condom had a break in it, especially since I did ejaculate in it? Could this be a possibility or am I letting my anxiety and fear get the best of me?
Thank you so much
Your condom did not slip off so that is not an issue. As long as the codnom is in place, covering the head of the penis, you are protected.
When condoms fail they do not "leak", they break wide open leaving no doubt that they have failed.
Hope this clears things up. EWH
I really appreciate your help. You have made me feel much better. Thank you.
I have a quick follow up. I went to Planned Parenthood this morning to have a Chylmydia and Gonnerhea urine test done. They advised if positive they would call withing 10 days. I have had not symptoms so not concerned about that really. I have had no sores or lesions in the last 27 days since my exposure - If I were to be infected with herpes would I have had a sore by now?
Over the last few weeks I have become quite afraid of HIV from my exposure. I know this is the wrong board so if needed I will post a new thread there, but I wanted to keep everything together.
I broke down on a day of guilt, anxiety, and depression and I ordered a HIV PCR DNA from an online testing service. (I know very expensive and high risk of false positive). I took the test exactly 21 days post exposure. These tests were performed by LabCorp.
HIV-1 Antibody, Confirmation Western Blot <1.00 <1.00 Negative
HIV 1/O/2 Abs, Qual HIV 1/O/2 Abs, Qual Nonreactive
HIV-1 DNA by PCR With HIV Antibodies by ICMA Negative
I was told by the testing center after 3 weeks these results are 90% reliable. How confident can I be in these results.
I have grown very worried - My girlfriend has a bad cold for 2 days now - sorethroat, headache, slight fever, and running nose - now all congested.
This adds to my anxiety that I may have caught HIV and gave it to her.
Please help and advise, thank you so much
This thread needs to end. It appears that my efforts to relieve your anxieties only feed them. This will be my final respnse.
The money you spent for HIV testing proved what I told you . You did not get HIV from what I told you was a no risk exposure. You certainly do not need further testing. I urge you to believe you test results.
Sorry your GF has a cold. It is not HIV that you gave to her. EWH